create a social sorority

[James]

Speaking as the forum moderator I will say that many of you have been both unneccessarily mean as well as unhelpful to cristinasmiles original question/intention. And I am deliberately speaking in an understatement. In reality many of you have been just simply crass, rude and shown yourselves to be ill-mannered.

Also, many of you that have been mean have not read been careful in reading her posts.

Most of your objections and concerns were met early on and acknoweldged by cristinasmile. And yet despite the fact that she posted that repeatledly, many of you still tore her up down and sideways over what was no longer an issue.

Maybe you just felt safe being vindictavie both to a total stranger and a newbie on GC?

Some general points:

If you have to preface your post by no-offense, don't bother because you are just going to offend them anyway.

Also, a lot of you are doing what they call a Double-Bind. Where you are basically saying one thing and meaning another.

"I am just trying to help you out, but I am really bad mouthing you."

Now I realize that many of you were upset, even though it was mostly for no reason. Maybe you woke up on the wrong side of the bed or are really mad at someone else. Whatever.

However, one of the measures of being an effective human being and showing personal leadership ability, is to not act on being upset.

How you feel is almost irrelevant. What is important is how you behave. And I stated before many if you have behaved in a way that ill behooves anyone that is claiming to be helpful.

I am giving you fair warning, stop behaving this way in this forum. Other moderatos may tolerate or encourage useless emotional outbursts hidden behind so-called well-meaning posts but that kind of pettiness will not be tolerated here.

Let me pause and thank the people who responded in a considerate manner. It reflects well on you.

I would also like to show my appreciation to those whose reading comprehension was sufficient to understand cristinasmile and not criticise her for things she had already fixed.