|
Re: I'm single so what do I know, but....
Originally posted by Honeykiss1974
I believe that when you enter into marriage, you CAN NOT go into it with the expectation that this person is WILL NEVER CHANGE because guess what ...... they will. (I don't want this to come off bitter, so just keep reading and hear me out).
Honey, I agree with you there! And most of my friends that are married are saying just that. "He/she's changed. The same things he/she did before we got married, he/she should do now to keep me." When they tell me that I ask them if they've verbalized that to their spouses and most times they haven't. That's why I feel communication is a very pertinent component to a successful marriage.
Additionally, I believe that couples can not be afraid of seeking therapy either. I know sometimes, especially in our community, therapy is seen as being as taboo, but we have got to overcome that mind-set. If you need professional help, by all means get it.
This is another big one. A lot of people have problems with this!! I know that marriage counseling was taboo at one point and time, but I think it's a very essential tool to keeping your marriage sane.
Other thoughts?
__________________
Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc.
Minneapolis/St. Paul Alumnae Chapter
|
Threaded Mode