1. Did you decide upon your organization of choice PRIOR to visiting GC?
Yes wayyy before like almost 10 years ago.
2. Would you let the views or beliefs of one sway your interest to another organization?
No, my friends of "other" interest and I play around a lot and truth be told all the NPHC Sororities are wonderful Orgs. but I know which Org. I desire to become a member of.
3. Would you let the tactics of another (member or nonmember) sway your decision to become a member of an organization you really had no interest in?
Nah... Beside in my case my really close friends who do throw out 'hints' know anything they say I take it in TOTAL jest! B/c I know, what I know, what I know....
4. Do you think that you would be offended if someone came to you so that you could become a member of their organization when you have clearly decided that you want to become a member of another organization?
I have had that happen and I think b/c my friends know me to be a loyal and steadfast person there was/is no 'bad blood' whatsoever... They hate my history spiel anyway...lol
5. What does the notion that someone would try to deliberately sway your intent say about that person?
I think it depends on what their true intent was/is. In my case, a person I know somewhat well invited me to a Rush a few years ago, and I smiled and said "thanks but no thanks." She was shocked and we discussed it a bit further and I made my desire plain and she respected that. She still from time to time will email about an event or see me 'in strive mode' and say are ya sureeeeee??? And I simply go into my history spiel and she smiles and walks away...lol.. The people who know me well know of my interest and they know there's no switching up going on even if I have to wait another decade!!!!
6. Would you find fault with the organization as a whole or only the person?
I think again it depends on the intent. I have a former coworker who is in another Org. and she has asked me about pledging her Org. for a number of years. In my line of work I have been fortunate enough to meet members of Alpha Kappa Alpha and work with them and she has seen that and has questioned me about my interest, I tell her NADA. And I do find fault with her personally b/c she is known to have a big mouth and I could just imagine what she would say if she knew for a fact that I was interested in Alpha Kappa Alpha especially since she has made derogatory comments about the Org. in my presence, I think mostly to see my reaction.... Of which I tell her as Black women and Christians we should not say things of that nature b/c everyone does something positive.... For yall that know me, yall KNOW how hard it is for me to hold my tongue but alas discretion!
However, if the Org./chapter is encouraging members to 'recruit' I would fault the Org. as well.
7. What does that say, if anything about the person who tries to get you to follow her into her organization when that isn't really what you want to do?
Back to my old friend intent, I think some people see you as an asset and think you would make a great member. And as Sisterfriends we knowwwww when hear a Member of AKA say that to us...our hearts jump with joy! So I guess I take anything from a member of another Org. w/ a grain of salt in most case because of discretion they aren't the wiser of my interest anyhow so I can't fault them. But if it were me and i kept hinting to someone and they didn't take the bait... I dunno I'd stop... but oh well....I'll take it as a good thing and keep praying....
8. Ultimately, what kind of person would you be to succumb and follow when you know that isn't what you want to do?
I think desperate? Some people really just want to belong. And I can't say they are wrong... b/c it's not for me to say. You have to do what you think is best for you. I have friends who cannot believe I am still interested in AKA after all these years. But in my mind there is no other choice for ME... (P.S. A-.All Orgs. are simply wonderful and do great things.) And the time I have spent has opened wonderful doors to women who I otherwise would not have been blessed to meet and work with. Moreover, I am learning more and more about the organization's history and current initiatives which only further fuels my desire and as with EVERYTHING God's got it all in control and when He is ready to bless you with something no one and nothing can stop Him...
Moral of the story wait on God!
9. Could you look yourself in the mirror?
No way no how!
10. What does that say (if it says anything) about your integrity?
Hummm...
Waiting would say----I think it says that, I, despite other opportunities have made a commitment to remain true to myself and my desires and goals and if it takes another 10 years I know there's a blessing in it regardless and its worth the wait!
Not waiting would say--- I would need serious self reflection I do believe you can be initially 'attracted' to one Org. and then research and find your 'true calling' if that's the case good for you! But if out of impatience you take 'second best' ie., your second choice.... there's some serious assessing one should do.
WOW this got the brain moving on a Saturday morning!!!! Now off to class!
I guess I'll take a run at it too!
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