Sisterfriends of GC-10 questions for ya!
 

1. Did you decide upon your organization of choice PRIOR to visiting GC?

2. Would you let the views or beliefs of one sway your interest to another organization?

3. Would you let the tactics of another (member or non-member) sway your decision to become a member of an organization you really had no interest in?

4. Do you think that you would be offended if someone came to you so that you could become a member of their organization when you have clearly decided that you want to become a member of another organization?

5. What does the notion that someone would try to deliberately sway your intent say about that person?

6. Would you find fault with the organization as a whole or only the person?

7. What does that say, if anything about the person who tries to get you to follow her into her organization when that isn't really what you want to do?

8. Ultimately, what kind of person would you be to succumb and follow when you know that isn't what you want to do?

9. Could you look yourself in the mirror?

10. What does that say (if it says anything) about your integrity?

Just some questions for you to ponder over. :D

Excellent questions, Soror 2D!!! I'm awaiting some great responses from our fellow sisterfriends.

LOL: Just a hunch!
 

Soror, I think we could be *waiting* and *waiting* and *waiting*...

:p
:D

Well, I guess I will start.

1. Did you decide upon your organization of choice PRIOR to visiting GC?
I decided that I wanted to be apart of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc way before joining GC. I did not found out about
GC until after doing some research.

2. Would you let the views or beliefs of one sway your interest to another organization?
No, I would not.

3. Would you let the tactics of another (member or non-member) sway your decision to become a member of an organization you really had no interest in?
No, one person doesn't make an organization whether it be a greek sorority or a community service group. I looked at the organization as a whole.

4. Do you think that you would be offended if someone came to you so that you could become a member of their organization when you have clearly decided that you want to become a member of another organization?
Yes, and I have seen it done. You don't want to disrespect anyone in another sorority, but when they clearly want to diminish your chances in joining the organization of your choice, then you need to separate yourself from that individual.

5. What does the notion that someone would try to deliberately sway your intent say about that person?
Well, it says that person doesn't not respect you and you have to make it very clear that you are not interest. Or they are desperate for members.

6. Would you find fault with the organization as a whole or only the person?
Only that person, unless each member is doing the same thing.

7. What does that say, if anything about the person who tries to get you to follow her into her organization when that isn't really what you want to do?
Maybe the other organization sees something in me that is worth while. If an individual has that charisma and personality about her, most likely she would catch the eye of more than one organization.

8. Ultimately, what kind of person would you be to succumb and follow when you know that isn't what you want to do?
Well, that would mean I have not found why I want to join Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc. It would mean I have not found the difference between this sorority and the other three. I

9. Could you look yourself in the mirror?
I don't know.

10. What does that say (if it says anything) about your integrity?
Well, it says that maybe this sorority was not for me. I've changed direction many times in my life (such as first majoring in Computer Science and then changing my major to Psychology and graduating with a Psychology degree and now I am in Nursing School), but don't regret any of it. Some people in this world are just lost and are just finding their way and I don't think that is wrong. Now if someone changes their mind on one sorority to go to another because their second choice has more parties or their second choice gets all the men, then that person needs to seriously reexamine their life.


Before I sign off, I want to clarify something: I want to become a member of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc. and I have been pursuing it since my sophomore year of college.
:)
I just have to be patient because grad is a whole different story!

I haven't considered myself a sisterfriend since early 2001...
 

But since I'm bored and no one else wants to start off:

1. Did you decide upon your organization of choice PRIOR to visiting GC?

* Yes.



2. Would you let the views or beliefs of one sway your interest to another organization?


* No. However, I have learned that coming into contact with a single, very powerful individual can really make you think.



3. Would you let the tactics of another (member or non-member) sway your decision to become a member of an organization you really had no interest in?

* No. Hardheaded people like me don't respond to persuasion.



4. Do you think that you would be offended if someone came to you so that you could become a member of their organization when you have clearly decided that you want to become a member of another organization?

* I once had a few non-AKA women (graduate) tell me that I'd make a good XYZ. However, I don't share my personal hopes with people so they had no clue about my goals. Even if they were aware, I would be flattered that someone thought that I'm worth trying to coerce.



5. What does the notion that someone would try to deliberately sway your intent say about that person?

*At first I thought it showed a character flaw, but then I had an interesting thought. Colleges try and persuade excellent students to attend their schools. Jobs fight for the best college graduates. Some jobs persuade people to leave their, company, hospital, firm, etc., for theirs. It's not really being sneaky or disrespectful. It's all about attracting the best and showing them that YOU TOO are the best. That's how folks stay on top!

If I knew that a girl in my your poli-sci class had the makings of a Senator, Congresswoman, or Mayor, I would naturally feel as though she should be a part of MY organization. I don't believe in harrasment, but I can't say I would let rush come and go without dropping a hint. But that's me!



6. Would you find fault with the organization as a whole or only the person?

* That person/group of people. If they weren't punished I would wonder why the governing body didn't take some sort of action against the offender.



7. What does that say, if anything about the person who tries to get you to follow her into her organization when that isn't really what you want to do?

* Either they don't think you have no sense and don't respect your choice, or they think you are too good to pass up.



8. Ultimately, what kind of person would you be to succumb and follow when you know that isn't what you want to do?

* You're weak if you rush/pledge something you really don't want for yourself. However, if you discover that you and XYZ compliment each other nicely and decided to go for it, you are smart and brave. I've heard people talk badly about a people who used to be a SF for one organization and then switched over. To those people I've asked this question: Do you want a soror who only joined XYZ because she felt too guilty about pursuing what she really wanted?



9. Could you look yourself in the mirror?

*If I switched prospective organizations? Hell yes! I couldn't look at myself if I crossed into a sorority I really didn't want or love. You can't uncross The Sands, man!!



10. What does that say (if it says anything) about your integrity?

*That I've got some!

My Thoughts...
 

1. Did you decide upon your organization of choice PRIOR to visiting GC?
Although I am not currently actively pursuing membership (I am busy focusing on building myself up and involved in other things), I did decide upon my interest in ABC org. before I found GC...However, I must admit that quite a few things I observe on GC have openeded my eyes more in terms of some of the ongoings of Greeklife (from an outsider's perspective, of course ;))...

2. Would you let the views or beliefs of one sway your interest to another organization?
No. As long as the views of the organization as a whole were in line with my own beliefs, then there would not be a problem. Every person is an individual--it's our differences that make us unique and make the world interesting.

3. Would you let the tactics of another (member or non-member) sway your decision to become a member of an organization you really had no interest in?
Heck, naw!!!! I do what I WANT TO DO, :cool: which is ultimately what the Lord compells me to do...I DO NOT follow others!!! :p :D...This is a personal decision that only YOU can make for yourself (after much research and consideration, of course)...Anybody that does become swayed to become a member of an org they have no interest in obviously wasn't genuinely interested in their first choice org in the first place (or, they were interested for the wrong reasons :rolleyes: )...

4. Do you think that you would be offended if someone came to you so that you could become a member of their organization when you have clearly decided that you want to become a member of another organization?
No, esp. not if they didn't know of my interest in ABC and I know that they have good intentions. I would take it as a compliment but reply that although I am flattered, I am not interested in pursuing membership XYZ.

5. What does the notion that someone would try to deliberately sway your intent say about that person?
Depends on the circumstances of and who is attempting to do the "swaying"...If it is a member of XYZ, it says that they believe I possess characteristics that are desirable to that org, and that they think that I would be an asset to the org (this is assuming they have good intentions and do not know of my interest in ABC)...If they do know of my interest in ABC and continue to attempt to "sway" me to XYZ--then it says that particular member of XYZ (not the entire org) lacks intergrity...If it is a member of the org I am interested in, then again, I would also take it as a compliment...HOWEVER, as I stated earlier a decision of this caliber is one that should be made based on what one truly feels in their heart--NOT on what another person wants them to do, b/c it is YOU that has to live with the choice you have made...THEREFORE, the members of both ABC and XYZ would have to understand that I will have to make this choice for myself...Now, on the OTHERHAND, if any member of any org continuously tries to sway me any way, then that says that the person thinks they can persuade people to do whatever they want them to do & that they don't respect that I am intelligent enough to make my own decisions...Don't get me wrong: I value and appreciate any assistance that is given to me, but ultimately I make my own decisons...AS FOR non-members of greek orgs, they have no say-so in regards to my interest in ABC...B/c as I stated earlier I do what I want to do...

6. Would you find fault with the organization as a whole or only the person?
No...The fault is with the individual member of the org...NOT the entire org as a whole...Every org has a few rotten apples, but that doesn't spoil the entire bunch (esp. when that "bunch" is thousands of thousands!!!)...

7. What does that say, if anything about the person who tries to get you to follow her into her organization when that isn't really what you want to do?
That person lacks integrity and thinks that they can get me to do whatever they want me to do and doesn't respect my own intelligence...And that they are in for a rude awakening b/c I ain't going out like that (as Theo from the "Real World" says, "I ain't no punk!")!!!

8. Ultimately, what kind of person would you be to succumb and follow when you know that isn't what you want to do?
A weak a%$ punk!!! :eek:...A follower...An individual that has no integrity...A person that doesn't have a mind of their own and that lives their life for other people instead of for themself...A person that SERIOUSLY needs to evaluate WHY they are interested in becoming a member of a BGLO in the first place...:rolleyes:

9. Could you look yourself in the mirror?
Nope...But I'd be tempted, being that I am such a beautiful, gorgeous woman!!! :p :cool:

10. What does that say (if it says anything) about your integrity?
That I lack integrity... :(

Re: Sisterfriends of GC-10 questions for ya!
 

1. Did you decide upon your organization of choice PRIOR to visiting GC?
Yes. Before I joined GC I already new what organization that I was interested in. GC just allowed me to intereact with members and prospectives in ways that extended beyond gaining knowledge or membership into Alpha Kappa Alpha.

2. Would you let the views or beliefs of one sway your interest to another organization?
No. I know that there is no "one" type of Alpha Kappa Alpha woman. Also, the person is just one of over 150,000 women. Additionally, if that person's views or beliefs conflicted with the principles or goals of AKA, I could only ponder WHY she pursued membership in the first place.

3. Would you let the tactics of another (member or non-member) sway your decision to become a member of an organization you really had no interest in?
No. I know with who and where my interest lies.

4. Do you think that you would be offended if someone came to you so that you could become a member of their organization when you have clearly decided that you want to become a member of another organization?
No, I would not be offended if someone approached me in a cool, professional manner. I believe there is nothing wrong with a member trying to select prospectives that she thinks would be a great asset (and a great fit in regards to principles, goals, code of conduct) to her organization. I would have a problem if I have stated that I was not interested, but yet she kept approaching me about the subject.
5. What does the notion that someone would try to deliberately sway your intent say about that person?
If it was done is a professional manner (i.e. not downgrading or demeaning the organization that I am interested in) I would just think of it as a member trying to "look out" for her organization.

6. Would you find fault with the organization as a whole or only the person?
Actually neither. Just like companies recruit and seek the best people for their organization, I would assume that this member was just doing the same thing. Once again as long as it was all done in a professional manner (Have I said that enough times yet? :p

[B]7. What does that say, if anything about the person who tries to get you to follow her into her organization when that isn't really what you want to do?
I would just chalk it up to persistance. However, if I have already told her that I am interested in another organization, I would take it as someone that "just don't get it" and would have to find a tactful way to let her know that seriously, I AM NOT INTERESTED.

8. Ultimately, what kind of person would you be to succumb and follow when you know that isn't what you want to do?
If I sucumbed to the pressure of joining, just because someone else thought their organization was the best fit for me, then I would have to question my motives for wanting to join a sorority in the first place. I am not saying that a person can't change their mind about what org to join, because after all it is during college that many people first encounter greeks and greek life. But what I am saying is that the DECISION should be up to the individual (and what you feel is the best match for you), and not because so and so thinks you should be an XYZ, Inc.

9. Could you look yourself in the mirror?
I would feel like a sell-out. Everytime I saw someone in the org. that I wanted to join I would always think "that might have been me".
10. What does that say (if it says anything) about your integrity?
I believe that it says that I still have some growing up to do.

1. Did you decide upon your organization of choice PRIOR to visiting GC? Yes, I decided which organization I was interested in long before I knew what greekchat was.
2. Would you let the views or beliefs of one sway your interest to another organization? Certainly not! If I were that easily swayed, I would have already been swayed by now. Since I am not, I am going on three years strong in pursuit.
3. Would you let the tactics of another (member or non-member) sway your decision to become a member of an organization you really had no interest in? No way! I have sincerely taken heed to the advice that joining a BGLO is a LIFETIME committment. That is certainly not something I would agree to nonchalantly. I could not work for another organization knowing that it was not truly what was in my heart.
4. Do you think that you would be offended if someone came to you so that you could become a member of their organization when you have clearly decided that you want to become a member of another organization? No, I would not be offended. Only because, I would like to believe that I am a well rounded individual. I would like to think that I would be considered an excellent candidate for any organization. Although I may be a good candidate, that does not mean that it is what I want or that we actually fit together. However, I would like to think that having the basics ( scholarship, service, etc.) would make others interested in me. I have actually had this done to me before. A member of another sorority was constantly inviting me to events, teas, info sessions, etc. Eventually, I just told her that I was not interested in sororities at all. We still remained cool though.
5. What does the notion that someone would try to deliberately sway your intent say about that person? Now the idea that someone would purposely try to sway you would say to me that they are desperate for membership. It also says to me that they don't have that much respect for their organization. Why would you want someone in your organization who did not really want to be there? Who wants to be chosen by default?
6. Would you find fault with the organization as a whole or only the person? I would only find fault if the member continued to pursue me after I have made it clear that I was not interested. If so, I would only be upset with the person "recruiting" me.
7. What does that say, if anything about the person who tries to get you to follow her into her organization when that isn't really what you want to do? My answer is about the same as my answer to number five. But more importantly, it says that she does not respect my wishes if she continues to pressure me.
8. Ultimately, what kind of person would you be to succumb and follow when you know that isn't what you want to do? I would have to someone who isn't very sure of herself or her beliefs.
9. Could you look yourself in the mirror? Is this a trick question? If I were to be swayed, No. I would not be able to look myself in the mirror ( in any fashion).
10. What does that say (if it says anything) about your integrity? If I were swayed to do something that I did not truly agree with or believe in, I'm gonna agree with my sisterfriend, I would have a lot of growing up to do.

1. Did you decide upon your organization of choice PRIOR to visiting GC? Way before.

2. Would you let the views or beliefs of one sway your interest to another organization? Not at all.

3. Would you let the tactics of another (member or non-member) sway your decision to become a member of an organization you really had no interest in? Negative.

4. Do you think that you would be offended if someone came to you so that you could become a member of their organization when you have clearly decided that you want to become a member of another organization? Little flattered but definitely not offended.

5. What does the notion that someone would try to deliberately sway your intent say about that person? That she really doesn’t know me at all. I have issues stepping away from my beliefs even when I know that I’m dead azz wrong. LOL.. yeah I’m working on that.


6. Would you find fault with the organization as a whole or only the person? If I found fault… it would be with the person not the org. More than one person makes an org.

7. What does that say, if anything about the person who tries to get you to follow her into her organization when that isn't really what you want to do? That she should pursue a career in sales.

8. Ultimately, what kind of person would you be to succumb and follow when you know that isn't what you want to do? By going from ABC to XYZ… apparently my reasons for initially choosing ABC weren’t really the true reasons at all esp. if I didn’t believe in them. And that ABC is prolly better off while XYZ is in trouble. Kind of person.. ? weak and misguided of course.

9. Could you look yourself in the mirror? Maybe that’s where I should start… with me… discovering me and what I want and not what someone else would like me to do.

10. What does that say (if it says anything) about your integrity? What integrity?

1. Did you decide upon your organization of choice PRIOR to visiting GC? No, I made my choice a long time ago.

2. Would you let the views or beliefs of one sway your interest to another organization? I am faced with this at all times, but I know what's in my heart, and I am going to follow my heart and soul.

3. Would you let the tactics of another (member or non-member) sway your decision to become a member of an organization you really had no interest in? Not in a million years.

4. Do you think that you would be offended if someone came to you so that you could become a member of their organization when you have clearly decided that you want to become a member of another organization? No, I would not because if you are being discreet with your business, how would they know if you were interested in an organization at all.

5. What does the notion that someone would try to deliberately sway your intent say about that person? They have no respect for your interests and they are only looking out for themselves.

6. Would you find fault with the organization as a whole or only the person?
I would have a problem with the person who is causing the problem.

7. What does that say, if anything about the person who tries to get you to follow her into her organization when that isn't really what you want to do? It would be flattering that she thinks enough of you to want you to share something special with you. If I have no interest, I would let her know how I felt because joing an organization is a lifetime dedication that come along with other responsiblities.

8. Ultimately, what kind of person would you be to succumb and follow when you know that isn't what you want to do? I would consider myself as being a weak minded individual that does not possess any leadership capabilities whatsoever.

9. Could you look yourself in the mirror?
No I could not look myself in the mirror because I would be a failure, and knowing in my heart that xyz was not what I want, I know I wouldn't be a good asset for xyz.

10. What does that say (if it says anything) about your integrity?
Nothing

My Thoughts...
 

Before I answer, I've been a sisterfriend since 2000.

1. Did you decide upon your organization of choice PRIOR to visiting GC?

Yes, I did. After a lot of research, I think I made the best choice for me.

2. Would you let the views or beliefs of one sway your interest to another organization?

Absolutely not. I think this is what GOOD research does for the person who is interested. You have to know what's best for you. I also think that when you're pursuing a particular organization, one ought to be looking at the national programs and service that she would be doing as a member, and whether or not she can best serve those programs. If you're letting the opinion of one person sway you from the organization where you KNOW you'd be doing the most good, you aren't fit to be there.

3. Would you let the tactics of another (member or non-member) sway your decision to become a member of an organization you really had no interest in?

I agree with my fellow sisterfriends-NO, NO NO! Again, that's what research is for!! If you're letting that one person sway you, you should really think about whether or not this is for you...this is truly a LIFETIME commitment.

4. Do you think that you would be offended if someone came to you so that you could become a member of their organization when you have clearly decided that you want to become a member of another organization?

No, I wouldn't be if that person approached me in a professional way; also, they wouldn't know I was interested in ABC to begin with. I think I'm a well-rounded person who would work hard for the organization of my choice as well as the school I go to. So I'd be a little flattered-but of course I'd kindly turn it down :D while still not disclosing my interest in XYZ.

5. What does the notion that someone would try to deliberately sway your intent say about that person?

It depends on the circumstances. Again, if it was done in a professional way, that person may have seen in me and my actions their organization's ideals. Again, I'd be flattered but still have to graciously decline :D

6. Would you find fault with the organization as a whole or only the person?

I wouldn't find fault with either, simply because they were just seeing the good qualities in me and they are trying to recruit women who may uphold those ideals. Like sisterfriend HK1974 said, maybe they were just "looking out" for their organization. However, if that person just kept on pursuing me, that's a whole other situation.

7. What does that say, if anything about the person who tries to get you to follow her into her organization when that isn't really what you want to do?

Perhaps they're stalking me... :p Seriously, I would have to say that if I have already said, "No Thanks" she lacks the knowledge to stop pursuing me. The next time around, I'll have to spell it out... N-O T-H-A-N-K-S

8. Ultimately, what kind of person would you be to succumb and follow when you know that isn't what you want to do?

I'd have to ask myself if sorority life is REALLY for me or not. That would confirm that I probably was nothing but a t-shirt wearer that wouldn't do anything but want to party...and those are the WRONG reasons to join a sorority.

9. Could you look yourself in the mirror?

Oh no. Not at all. Not only would I not even be happy in the other org, everytime I see new members in the org I wanted to begin with I would be like, "Oh, that coulda been me up there."

10. What does that say (if it says anything) about your integrity?

Again, I gotta go with the sisterfriends and tell myself, "you've got some maturing to do". Obviously I went into this for the wrong reasons.

1. Did you decide upon your organization of choice PRIOR to visiting GC?

Yes. There has only ever been 1 choice for me.

2. Would you let the views or beliefs of one sway your interest to another organization?

No. I truly believe if your organization of choice is wholly in your heart, there's no room for swaying.

3. Would you let the tactics of another (member or non-member)
sway your decision to become a member of an organization you really had no interest in?

No. Same answer as above.

4. Do you think that you would be offended if someone came to you so that you could become a member of their organization when you have clearly decided that you want to become a member of another organization?

I had to really think about this for a minute before replying, because I've had this happen to me on more than one occasion, and I was offended. I felt as if, why should I be bothered with second best.

5. What does the notion that someone would try to deliberately sway your intent say about that person?

It would let me know, they did not have my best interests or true desires at heart, if they did they wouldn't attempt to change my mind or me. (Not that I would tell anyone ;) )

6. Would you find fault with the organization as a whole or only the person?

I would find fault with the individual. One person's position has no reflection one the entire organization they belong to.

7. What does that say, if anything about the person who tries to get you to follow her into her organization when that isn't really what you want to do?

Same answer as Number 5.

8. Ultimately, what kind of person would you be to succumb and follow when you know that isn't what you want to do?

WEAK and DISHONEST, UNTRUE TO MYSELF!

9. Could you look yourself in the mirror?

NO. Especially not while possibly dressed in this organizations paraphernalia, knowing I had the opportunity to pursue my organization of choice.


10. What does that say (if it says anything) about your integrity?

It would show I had no integrity to begin with. Why be a part of an organization that holds no pride, meaning or value to ones self?

No fair....
 

No fair AKA2D....there's no questions for sorors to reply to....:D

Re: No fair....
 

Now, Soror, I know you've been there and done that! :D

You've retired from stuh like that.

:p

Re: Sisterfriends of GC-10 questions for ya!
 

1. Did you decide upon your organization of choice PRIOR to visiting GC?
>YES<


2. Would you let the views or beliefs of one sway your interest to another organization?
>NO, Just because it's good for them, doesn't mean it's good for me!<

3. Would you let the tactics of another (member or non-member) sway your decision to become a member of an organization you really had no interest in?
>NO<

4. Do you think that you would be offended if someone came to you so that you could become a member of their organization when you have clearly decided that you want to become a member of another organization?
>It depends, if they already knew where my interest is, then I would be. If they didn't know, then I would not be.<

5. What does the notion that someone would try to deliberately sway your intent say about that person?
>Again, if they did not know where my interest already is, then I would say that the person just thought I was good for their org.<

6. Would you find fault with the organization as a whole or only the person?
>only the person<

7. What does that say, if anything about the person who tries to get you to follow her into her organization when that isn't really what you want to do?
>It says that they believe whats good for them must be good for everyone else.<

8. Ultimately, what kind of person would you be to succumb and follow when you know that isn't what you want to do?
>Very weak<

9. Could you look yourself in the mirror?
>Yes, I know that I am not perfect and sometimes I will make bad choices. (but of course, I have made up my mind and I am sticking to it!)<

10. What does that say (if it says anything) about your integrity?
>that I don't have any<