The V-Card...

[AXOLiz]

Originally posted by Roseblum15
Nope, I just want them to understand that I am not as experienced as them.

Ditto...I honestly can't say that I'd wait until marriage if I was in a committed relationship with the right person, so I don't expect the man I will eventually marry to have waited. I understand that you can be completely 100% in love with someone and have things just not work out, or that you can have sex for any number of reasons. I've known plenty of people who thought they were ready but weren't and ended up waiting again, or people who were in really bad situations, or people who were pressured...plus all the people who had healthy, happy experiences.

The hardest part for me though has been finding someone who understands my lack of experience AND is cool with it. I have a pretty open attitude about sex, so I'm willing to discuss almost anything, and I think guys think I have much more experience than I do because of it. And if there was any question as to how far things would progress physically with someone, I've always been completely honest up front and have said, "This is what we can do," and if they ask why, I'll tell them, so it's not like I'm a huge tease and would be pissing someone off. But it seems like guys still freak out as soon as they find out. And it's not like I bring it up the first second they meet me...the last one was someone I was seeing for a few weeks and he flat-out asked me if I was still in the Club (since I kept saying I wasn't ready to spend the night...and we had a total of 5 dates, so it wasn't like this was 3 years later). I told him about what I had and mostly hadn't done and he flipped out about how he didn't want to "ruin things" for me and that was pretty much it.

I'll make the statement here for the world to see:

YES, I AM VERY INEXPERIENCED. BUT, IF I HAVE THE RIGHT PERSON, I AM MORE THAN WILLING TO LEARN AND WILL TRY MY HARDEST TO GET IT RIGHT. IT MIGHT TAKE ME A LITTLE LONGER TO DO SO, THAT'S ALL.

grr...