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Originally posted by SSS1365
That doesn't make it any less offensive to hear people say things against women who *aren't* above a size 6, especially those of us who do not TRY to be that way! Honestly I don't think this entire topic is appropriate if you want to say our responses are inappropriate.
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I've never been actually fat, but I struggled with anorexia in high school, and let me tell you something -- being teased for being skinny is NEVER as mean-spirited or as prevalent as being teased for being fat, and the outcome is almost never the same. I know so many girls who were seriously scarred for being called fat when they were younger -- even if they weren't fat at all, they came to believe it. I don't know a single girl who has ever been seriously affected by jokes about her slimness. Is it a mean thing to call someone anorexic when they're not? Sure. But does it have anywhere near the long-term ramifications or the spitefulness of being teased because you're fat? No. Not even close.
Every time a skinny person complains about how they "can't gain weight," I get annoyed, and I know I'm not the only one. To me, that's like celebrities who complain about how "fame isn't all it's cracked up to be." Come on . . . a million people would kill to be in your place -- why the hell are you complaining? It's the same thing with really skinny girls. So you can't gain weight? So what. Nobody out there is calling you "a beached whale." Do people stare disapprovingly at you when you eat in public? Can you not shop in Banana Republic and Express because they don't carry your size? Do you have perfect strangers come up to you and say, "You should be ashamed of yourself"? Give me a break. The worst thing people say to skinny girls (and trust me, I've been there) is "you look anorexic" or "you're way too bony" -- both of which are looks that are emulated in the world of fashion, music, movies, and TV.
I said responding to her thread that way was inappropriate because it was uncalled for. Like I said before, if you're going to complain about how you're too skinny and you can't gain weight, that's fine. Most girls, even the size 0s and 2s, have something they hate about their bodies. That's perfectly legitimate. But complain about it in a different post, because that's not what this one is about. It is really frustrating to be upset about your weight and then read a bunch of complaints from skinny girls who say things like "Wah wah, I have no hips. I eat and eat and eat but I don't gain a pound! I weight exactly as much as most girls would kill to weigh and I'm still not happy!" I'm not saying that's not necessarily a legitimate complaint -- maybe you ARE too skinny. But it's not what girls who are above a size 10 (or for some girls, above a size 6 or even a 4) want to hear.
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