Maybe I'm just getting older, but... - Page 5

Blue Violet · #61 03-04-2003, 07:39 PM

Jen had good advice. I hope you find a way to express your concerns without getting more divided. And about stepping down, I know I'd be tempted too. Sometimes you have to say screw it. But I also know that sometimes the last thing you should is let "them" win. And it is sooo obvious you care a lot about your girls so i know you want to do the best thing. And-they are still part of your chapter. Maybe having the big sisters of the younger ones who are being this way have a little chat with them would be in order. That way no one feels ganged up on or too defensive. My big sister had to put me back in line and I've had to put mine in line and she's had to put hers-and so on. You know?

Good luck sweetie and God Bless.

luislama · #62 03-04-2003, 08:27 PM

i'm a lamda chi alpha at SMU in Dallas. As a Junior i'm also going through the exact same thing. But if I learned one thing its this. People will come and go. Just like when you go to bar, a school or even church there are going to be people that you meet and will like and keep up with. Don't stay at the same bar for ever, people have to graduate, they have to move on. If you had a great pair of years maybe you should leave it at that. Wow, I feel like I'm talking to myself. There is a lot to do, just don't do nothing. A good 20+ hours can be spent doing other things, and we can't forget that. We're winners, we are because we got in in the first place, we're likable people, and we're winners because we are contimplating and concerned about our future. Please think about it hard. But remember you're really not going to be doing something bad, its not a bad thing. good luck with all your endevors!

Tom Earp · #63 03-05-2003, 12:13 AM

Very good advice! You only know what it is like when you go through it!

BUT, as you get more down the road and Brothers contact you and talk about the Old days do you remember what You had then and what it ment to you!

Damn, What a graeat time of life that was for us all! Life moves on, but, then you get back into it and find, you did not lose it, it was just misplaced!

Thank you for saying I am a LXA from SMU!

I am A LXA from PSU and will always be!

ADPiViolets · #64 03-05-2003, 07:59 PM

Again, thank you so much for your advice.

KuThetaChi · #65 03-05-2003, 08:58 PM

Everyone has given good advice. I feel for your situation and understand it is probably quite stressful and disheartening. Just remember if you dont like who is being picked then get active in making decisions that will affect new membership. And if you dont think you can do that look forward to becoming a part of the Alumnae of your house. With that said when that happens you could get involved more on a larger level. I hope everything gets worked out...

polarpi · #66 04-24-2003, 11:24 PM

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Originally posted by valpogal99
ADPiViolets - the first thing I would recommend is addressing the situation with your exec committee.

Jen,
While I completely agree with you about talking to your exec committee, I also feel that at times that might not be the best course of action. Some sisters may feel that they can talk about everything that bothers them with the sorority during an exec meeting. This situation happened at my chapter my senior year. A group of sisters went to the exec committee meeting and said that "this is a list of things that (certain year of sisters) say are wrong with this chapter". This caused A LOT of tension within the chapter between the members who went to the meeting, the exec committee members, the members that were implicated as being a part of this "group", and the other active sisters. It took the actions of certain sisters who were not a part of the "group" (but who supposedly were) in order to rectify the situation and help calm the tension within the chapter. I'm all for communication with the chapter's executive committee, but I feel that at times it's better to start by talking with the president before going to the entire committee.

Love and loyally,
Jennie

ADPiViolets · #67 04-27-2003, 09:18 PM

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Originally posted by polarpi

While I completely agree with you about talking to your exec committee, I also feel that at times that might not be the best course of action.

Plus, at least in the case with my chapter, a lot of the girls on E-board have a hand in the problems that I am witnessing too.