LB's/Dating/Frat Hoes

[1 BX Spring 87]

Forget the fellas, the ladies are just as bad. My ex-wife (we were college sweethearts the whole 9..I gave her the money to pledge AKA) has this line sister. Even after we were married she was still trying to throw some my way. She provide examples and "attempted" to offer samples of what she believed to be her far superior skills. I know the fellas look bad on this point and get caught more often, but the ladies do it in such a way that you feel bad if you tell. Even at 40, I still don't want it to be public knowledge of my turning down (even though I did), as she liked to call it, "the best thing since they came up with 20 pearls." NO JOKE!

[smc112]

Originally Posted by 1 BX Spring 87

Forget the fellas, the ladies are just as bad. My ex-wife (we were college sweethearts the whole 9..I gave her the money to pledge AKA) has this line sister. Even after we were married she was still trying to throw some my way. She provide examples and "attempted" to offer samples of what she believed to be her far superior skills. I know the fellas look bad on this point and get caught more often, but the ladies do it in such a way that you feel bad if you tell. Even at 40, I still don't want it to be public knowledge of my turning down (even though I did), as she liked to call it, "the best thing since they came up with 20 pearls." NO JOKE!

I guess this is your example of women of a sorority "sharing" everything? (As someone stated in a earlier post) The difference with men and women is that women aren't in agreement with sharing their men. I'm sure if your ex-wife found out that one of her line sister's tried to approach you in a sexual manner, she would be ready to jump on her line sister. Women are different when it comes to that type of stuff. I don't think sorority members "share" their men, like the fraternities members don't have a problem doing.

[Professor]

Some men feel the same way. I would not want to share anything unless I had it first. I have never had sloppy seconds not even for my brothers.

Originally Posted by smc112

I guess this is your example of women of a sorority "sharing" everything? (As someone stated in a earlier post) The difference with men and women is that women aren't in agreement with sharing their men. I'm sure if your ex-wife found out that one of her line sister's tried to approach you in a sexual manner, she would be ready to jump on her line sister. Women are different when it comes to that type of stuff. I don't think sorority members "share" their men, like the fraternities members don't have a problem doing.

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by smc112

I guess this is your example of women of a sorority "sharing" everything? (As someone stated in a earlier post) The difference with men and women is that women aren't in agreement with sharing their men. I'm sure if your ex-wife found out that one of her line sister's tried to approach you in a sexual manner, she would be ready to jump on her line sister. Women are different when it comes to that type of stuff. I don't think sorority members "share" their men, like the fraternities members don't have a problem doing.

I'm thinking women seem to be different in a sense, because to me they don't seem to be as open about their sexual struggles because of the humiliation that comes with giving sex in order to get love. Women don't seem to be the ones bragging about the number of sexual partners they've had. I would think that's because for a woman the relationship is the prize, the sex was simply the price she paid to get the prize. If she paid the price, but still didn't get the prize, I think there's an incredible amount of humiliation that comes with that. Most men seem to be proud of the amount of women they've slept with. To me, I'm embarrased for the men who practice this kind of dysfuntional behavior too.

[DSTCHAOS]

Huh?

[starang21]

i see prettyboy's point. women DO allow it to happen. the men who do it are pieces of shit, regardless. but it wouldn't happen as often if it didn't work as often as it does.

ETA: the above has nothing to with rape. those men are pieces of shit irrelevant of siteatchun.

[PrettyBoy]

I agree with the two ladies above. You're absolutely right. I'm just saying women who dress too fast don't have any respect for themselves. A woman who has no respect for herself won't have any respect for others either. A classy woman to me is a woman who presents herself as an attractive woman because she knows she represents God to others. I know it can happen anywhere, but women like this who respect themselves generally don't hang out where no good men with bad morals hang out. To me, a woman with integrity lives a life that lines up with her Christian beliefs. She lives according to the standard of love rather than law. She doesn't "claim" to be a follower of Christ, yet disregard His many teachings on immodest dress. IMO, a woman of integrity lives what she believes about God , and it shows everywhere from head to toe.

Also the father figure was mentioned earlier. Yes, I agree. My parents have been married for 45 years and as a child and a man, all I've ever seen my dad do was/is serve and respect my mom. I'm not saying that a single mother can't raise a fine young man, because I've seen it happen. I do think it's a blessing to have a father figure in the home though. As far as rap music is concerned, I think it's the videos too, but I don't think it corrupts all black men. I listen to some old school rap, but I don't disrespect women, I never have and I never will. I don't allow many women into my life. It's one woman for me. Always has been, always will be. A lot gang banging, drugs, and alcoholism is mentioned in rap music too, but I don't gang bang, drink, or do drugs either. So some black men don't get influenced by rap music.

starang you and I are -------------->HERE<-----------------------

ETA: Nothing wrong with drinking, if done responsibly. I just don't drink because of the taste.:-)

[smc112]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

I agree with the two ladies above. You're absolutely right. I'm just saying women who dress too fast don't have any respect for themselves. A woman who has no respect for herself won't have any respect for others either. A classy woman to me is a woman who presents herself as an attractive woman because she knows she represents God to others. I know it can happen anywhere, but women like this who respect themselves generally don't hang out where no good men with bad morals hang out. To me, a woman with integrity lives a life that lines up with her Christian beliefs. She lives according to the standard of love rather than law. She doesn't "claim" to be a follower of Christ, yet disregard His many teachings on immodest dress. IMO, a woman of integrity lives what she believes about God , and it shows everywhere from head to toe.

You aren't one of those who feel that women have to be dressed with a skirt all the way down to the ankles and wearing a turtle neck, are you? LOL Like I said before, there are a lot of women who like fashion and have diversity in their style. I'm a Holy Ghost filled woman of God, and I wear make-up and I keep up with the latest styles. I'm sure that I don't fit the mold of what some Pentecostal women would want me to wear. If you follow their beliefs they feel that women are going to Hell because they wear blue jeans and make-up. God calls us to be free, and to enjoy life. I'm a classy woman who loves God, and I feel I represent God well in the way I dress. It might not be a skirt all the way down to my ankles all the time, but God loves my sense of style because he gave me those creative gifts. God gifted me with the ability to apply my make-up and to coordinate some slamming outfits! God isn't concerned about the outside as much as he is concerned with the inner man of the heart. There are plenty of women who dress very modestly and be the biggest freaks! Sleeping around with everything! Like I said, you shouldn't always judge a book by it's cover. The girl with the short skirt might very well be a woman who operates in integrity. Jesus said something very interesting to the Pharisees in Matthew 23:27-28. He told them that they appeared to be righteous on the outside but on the inside they were filled with hypocrisy and wickedness. They were like whitewashed tombs, which look beautiful on the outside but on the inside full of dead men's bones and everything unclean. I thought this scripture was a prime example of not judging people based on outward appearances because everything is not what it seems to be.

*** By the way, I am a person who keeps things balanced with the way I dress, but I'm just making sure that you aren't on the extreme as the Pentecostals are. Thinking that women have to be covered from head to toe and that makes them "righteous".

[PrettyBoy]

Originally Posted by smc112

You aren't one of those who feel that women have to be dressed with a skirt all the way down to the ankles and wearing a turtle neck, are you? LOL Like I said before, there are a lot of women who like fashion and have diversity in their style. I'm a Holy Ghost filled woman of God, and I wear make-up and I keep up with the latest styles. I'm sure that I don't fit the mold of what some Pentecostal women would want me to wear. If you follow their beliefs they feel that women are going to Hell because they wear blue jeans and make-up. God calls us to be free, and to enjoy life. I'm a classy woman who loves God, and I feel I represent God well in the way I dress. It might not be a skirt all the way down to my ankles all the time, but God loves my sense of style because he gave me those creative gifts. God gifted me with the ability to apply my make-up and to coordinate some slamming outfits! God isn't concerned about the outside as much as he is concerned with the inner man of the heart. There are plenty of women who dress very modestly and be the biggest freaks! Sleeping around with everything! Like I said, you shouldn't always judge a book by it's cover. The girl with the short skirt might very well be a woman who operates in integrity. Jesus said something very interesting to the Pharisees in Matthew 23:27-28. He told them that they appeared to be righteous on the outside but on the inside they were filled with hypocrisy and wickedness. They were like whitewashed tombs, which look beautiful on the outside but on the inside full of dead men's bones and everything unclean. I thought this scripture was a prime example of not judging people based on outward appearances because everything is not what it seems to be.

*** By the way, I am a person who keeps things balanced with the way I dress, but I'm just making sure that you aren't on the extreme as the Pentecostals are. Thinking that women have to be covered from head to toe and that makes them "righteous".

Nope. I'm not one of those men who only date women who are completely covered. I like to see skin too. I am a leg man you know.

You're right, some women can dress nice and still be low down. Then you have some that wear short skirts (too short) and are great women. That's cool, but women who wear really short skirts, I find it to be unattractive. It's actually a turn off to me. It just depends on the taste of the man.

[smc112]

Originally Posted by PrettyBoy

Nope. I'm not one of those men who only date women who are completely covered. I like to see skin too. I am a leg man you know.

You're right, some women can dress nice and still be low down. Then you have some that wear short skirts (too short) and are great women. That's cool, but women who wear really short skirts, I find it to be unattractive. It's actually a turn off to me. It just depends on the taste of the man.

Actually, I normally stay away from wearing short stuff. Now, I will wear a tight pencil skirt or blue jeans. LOL Things tend to fit tight on me because I have a lot of curves. LOL Sometimes I will wear a shirt with the back out depending on the occasion. Like going out for a couple of drinks at night. I wouldn't wear a shirt with the back out during the day. That style is for night. I take Jessica Simpson's advice when it comes to clothes. She said if a woman is going to wear a top with the back out, she needs to wear some blue jeans or a long skirt. Never wear a back out top with a short skirt. Her other advice is if you are going to wear a short skirt, you need to wear a shirt that's covering you up on top or long-sleeves. Women start to look trampish if they combine wearing a back out top with a short skirt. If women follow those fashion tips, it will keep them from looking risqué. I just thought I might needed to add this info. Maybe it will help some of the women.

[love1god]

Men in general treat women how they present themselves to be treated. I think men well try you and LBs as well to see your worth, are you a groupie to passed and shared, or someone to take more seriously? Just because a guy tells you they share doesn't mean you should take it as an appropriate invite even if it is tradition (or not).

I personally haven't incountered this. Maybe its wrong, but although I have much respect for greek men I'm more cautious around them. I wouldn't date one just to do it like a fling, it would have to be some real feelings. I'm still in college and wouldn't want my relationship with one to compromise me in other situations. I don't think you should double dip into an organzation by having a relationship or fling with more than one... I just think thats awkward. But that rule for me applies not only to greeks, but athletes, and just groups of friends in general. I feel like if I date one, and things go south and stitch to one of their LBs its not a good look.

lol "Danger she smashed the homies" comes to mind

But I'm just a sisterfriend in college and thats my perspective.