Gay Vibe

[KappaKittyCat]

Oh, come on now, people! Please! I was chased by men like that all the time when I was in southern Europe. I've been chased by men in that same overly agressive manner several times here in the States. It's not acceptable behaviour regardless of which gender does it.

As for being upset that she assumed you were gay, I find that a little unfair. So many of those lines are blurred these days. She might not have made such an assumption in the first place. Many people are willing to experement without "changing sides," as it were. And on top of that, what about the thousands of homosexuals whom everybody assumes to be straight? Stereotypes of butch lesbians and fairy men are really far from the truth in most areas. Yes, you'll find a fair number of masculine women and effeminate men who are gay, but you'll also find an equal number who are straight. You'll also find an equal number of feminine women and masculine men who are gay.

I'm very sorry that you were harrassed and that you felt violated, and believe me, I know where you're coming from. However, I'd be far more concerned about that overly aggressive behaviour than any assumptions she might have made or any "vibe" you might have put off.