i completely agree and i was just about to say something to that effect. there's nothing wrong with paying your sorority dues yourself, or with working a part-time job during college. plenty of sorority members do these things. but i would not recommend asking the members about finances or expressing your job worries. each house should be required to make some kind of presentation or give you a slip of paper listing all the expenses associated with joining. it sounds like the second round of parties is a common time for this to happen. if that doesn't answer your questions, maybe you should take it up further with either your rho chi or with that sorority's advisor. but anyway, if you just ask some random sister that you're chatting with during a rush party about payment plans and the like, there's a really good chance she's not going to have the info you want. i mean, i have no idea whether or not my house offers payment plans and i've been a member for 2 years now. the one to ask is the chapter advisor, or the treasurer (once you've got a bid).
it's totally true, any sorority would prefer to have members for whom dues wouldn't be a problem, rather than girls who are constantly struggling. you don't want to come across as someone who's going to be a risk for de-pledging because you decide you can't hack it, financially. as a rushee, you don't present yourself in the most positive light by asking too many questions about money or by seeming like you worry a lot about having to work.
as for whether the house will let you miss events in order to work... i doubt it would be ok if you had to work every tuesday night (or whatever night) and missed chapter meeting each and every week. if you're never gonna be there, why even join? if you had to miss an occasional service event or mixer, i doubt it would be a big problem. most houses wouldn't require every member to attend EVERYTHING they do or you'd never have time for anything non-sorority in your life. you pick and choose which of the things you want to do. but again, if you work so much that you'll hardly ever have time for ANY of the service and socials, why are you joining?
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