Need Advice (Long)

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It's curious that you give us so many personal variables to absorb before we advise. I believe if you deeply read your own posts here again, a satisfactory answer to your dilemma will come to you.


For instance, you indicate you might change schools due to your finances. You can't join a new chapter where you won't be at next semester. From your previous pledging you know and understand the expense being a collegiate sorority member takes, so how will your current finances match any colony cost structure should you stay at your current campus?


Will a new colony want you? Will you have success should you attempt regular Fall Recruitment your Junior year? We honestly can't tell you, but the sororities will make their decisions and let you know if you choose to recruit yet again.


Will you continue to, as you say, beat yourself up and feel stressed and different wondering "what if I should have done this" and "why did they do that" instead of focusing on strengths you have going into your new possible recruitment situation?


You feel like you will come across as a complete loser or shopper in your fourth recruitment attempt (INCLUDING THE COB YOU SIGNED UP FOR, which caused you stress because no one called you). That attitude WILL come across in your convos with a new colony IF YOU ALLOW IT.


Again, thoughtfully re-read your inquiries made here, and your listed responses to your former recruitment experiences, to garner your future actions in the sorority recruitment realm.


You have the right to disregard any advise you asked for.