What do you feel like saying, right now?

[cheerfulgreek]

Originally Posted by Phrozen Sands

What do you mean by we listen beyond words, CG? See, I don’t like that whole y’all don’t want anything fixed shit, y’all just want us to listen. Listen to what? Why even bring it up if y’all don’t want anything?

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Okay, so…. we generally talk to process, not to problem solve. But when we need a fix, we’ll let you know. The key is listening first, fixing second. I mean, some women actually do want advice right away, but they usually make it clear when they do. When guys talk, it’s usually to exchange information or solve an issue. When we talk, it’s often to build connection and feel supported. So like, if a guy jumps into “fix it mode” too fast, for me, that can feel like he’s dismissing my feelings. But I’ve learned to communicate more directly with my husband over time. Less guessing, more talking.