Should I initiate at a non-local college or try for alumnae initiation elsewhere?

[Titchou]

I think maybe she's mixing terminology. Virtual is "traditional" now since the pandemic. And even SEC schools get 20-21 year olds going thru recruitment and getting placed.

I guess my question is - what is it you are looking for in a sorority? If it weren't for Covid and your family situation, where would you be right now?

If you truly believe you won't be in person next semester, you need to sign your papers and move on. Don't drag them along thinking you'll be there and all will be normal...I get the feeling you don't really want to go anyway....just my gut feeling.

[newtotheu]

Originally Posted by Titchou

I think maybe she's mixing terminology. Virtual is "traditional" now since the pandemic. And even SEC schools get 20-21 year olds going thru recruitment and getting placed.

I guess my question is - what is it you are looking for in a sorority? If it weren't for Covid and your family situation, where would you be right now?

If you truly believe you won't be in person next semester, you need to sign your papers and move on. Don't drag them along thinking you'll be there and all will be normal...I get the feeling you don't really want to go anyway....just my gut feeling.

I 100% want to move across the country and live on campus, be active in my collegiate sorority, and have a traditional college experience. I'm not sure I can do that unless/until my family's situation settles down and I don't know what will happen with my parent's health.

I want the friendships and memories of a sorority... study nights, charity drives, tailgating, and the usual. I opted for Greek over a random on-campus club because I want to develop lifelong or at least longer, deeper friendships and have more of a close-knit 'family' group on campus. I don't know of other groups that connect a person with both their college and also have the lifelong relationships with the combo of academics/charity/social events.

[thetalady]

Originally Posted by newtotheu

I 100% want to move across the country and live on campus, be active in my collegiate sorority, and have a traditional college experience. I'm not sure I can do that unless/until my family's situation settles down and I don't know what will happen with my parent's health.

I want the friendships and memories of a sorority... study nights, charity drives, tailgating, and the usual. I opted for Greek over a random on-campus club because I want to develop lifelong or at least longer, deeper friendships and have more of a close-knit 'family' group on campus. I don't know of other groups that connect a person with both their college and also have the lifelong relationships with the combo of academics/charity/social events.

I will not apologize for saying this. Not one bit of this makes any sense at all to me. I don't believe any of this for a minute. I think the OP is a troll, having a grand time laughing and pulling all of our legs. Autistic, plus size, depression problems, LGBTQ, eating disorder, MS, several years older than most pledges and looks older than that, lives across the country... are there any intersectional boxes that didn't get checked off?

[carnation]

Originally Posted by thetalady

I will not apologize for saying this. Not one bit of this makes any sense at all to me. I don't believe any of this for a minute. I think the OP is a troll, having a grand time laughing and pulling all of our legs. Autistic, plus size, depression problems, LGBTQ, eating disorder, MS, several years older than most pledges and looks older than that, lives across the country... are there any intersectional boxes that didn't get checked off?

Only that she has newborn triplets.

[newtotheu]

Originally Posted by thetalady

I will not apologize for saying this. Not one bit of this makes any sense at all to me. I don't believe any of this for a minute. I think the OP is a troll, having a grand time laughing and pulling all of our legs. Autistic, plus size, depression problems, LGBTQ, eating disorder, MS, several years older than most pledges and looks older than that, lives across the country... are there any intersectional boxes that didn't get checked off?

It's your option to believe that but is my reality regardless. It's not uncommon for those things to intersect. The autism and orientation lead to a lot of bullying which lead to depression and eating disorders and delayed educational experience. Covid allowed my classes to be online.. like many other students have been.