Help!

[FSUZeta]

Stuffy, I am so sorry that your daughter was given incorrect information, but she became bound to that sorority for a year until the next formal recruitment when she signed her MRABA-the BA stands for binding agreement. In my day we called it a bid card-where you agree to accept any bid offered you.

As 33girl says, she may as well give the chapter a chance-three emotional days is not a good basis on which a judgement should be based. I worry about her truly giving the chapter and her new sisters a real, unbiased chance, when, as you say, she is 90% sure that this is not the group for her. If it is a less desired chapter, she might be the one to put it back on the road to popularity. Your daughter sounds like a real go-getter; involved on campus, good grades, lots of friends-she could be that member that initiates the turn around. If she gives it a real chance, and right before initiation she is still not seeing herself as a member, she should resign. As long as she is not initiated, she will be eligible to rush the next time formal recruitment rolls around.