Rushing at a small(ish) school!

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by ambitiouschick

I attend a small school (about 5600) in a fairly small/average town. My school only has four sororities, and they're all great. I'd be so excited to get a bid from any of them, but from the reading and research I've been doing about Gamma Phi Beta, it seems to be a perfect fit for me. I especially love the philanthropy. Throughout high school, I always said I would never join a sorority because I felt like I would never fit in, but I have social anxiety and have trouble reaching out and making friends. I feel like a sorority would be perfect for helping me to really connect with people while doing what I love (serving my community)! I've only just learned about Greek life, and generally I have no clue what to expect. I al TERRIFIED of rush week because I have no idea what to do, especially because my school is so small. I don't know what I should expect going into everything, I don't know what I should wear, and I'm not really sure what a sorority (especially Gamma Phi Beta) is looking for in a girl or how I'm supposed to present myself. Because my school is so small, should I send in a recommendation letter or resume? Has anyone had any experience with this? I don't want to call, email, or get in touch with anyone unless I can't get any information here. Also, what's the deal with social media during rush? Do I have to totally deactivate my account, am I just not allowed to use it, or will I only have to log out/delete the app? If anyone can help me with this information, it would be great because I REALLY want to receive a bid (hopefully for Gamma Phi Beta) and leave a lasting impression! Thank you if you can help me out and if you took the time to read this!

First piece of advice: don't set your heart on one sorority prior to recruitment. Researching Gamma Phi Beta is one thing. Actually meeting, getting to know, and connecting with the sisters is another.

[NYCMS]

Agree with the earlier poster about not "picking" a sorority before you even meet the members. That's like choosing a husband based on a resume and picture or a company where you want to work before interviewing and knowing the people, company culture, etc.

Gamma Phi MAY be a fit for you, but without knowing any members, you just don't know. When I rushed I thought I knew which house I wanted, but was surprised (and delighted) when another house captured my heart. Yes, it was a house I'd heard a lot about (with things that appealed to me) but my aunt, who is a sorority member, encouraged me to be open. I was also drawn to her sorority - thought it would be so neat to be sisters, but didn't fall in love with them.

And getting fixated on one house is a surefire way to have a poor rush because the members of other houses will pick up on your lack of interest.