Trying to feel comfortable in new sorority

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by HappyMom2

Thank you all for your responses! I think that is all very good advice. I hope she will find people she will click with in her own sorority. I really hoped we wouldn't be in this situation at the beginning of her college experience and it is hard to be so far away. Her roommate got her top choice (she was a legacy) and she is having so much fun with her sorority already. They had their first exchange last night. Meanwhile, my daughter's sorority is spending their time doing COB, so they haven't done anything yet that will strengthen or grow their sisterhood. But you are right, it has only been days since bid day and there is a lot she hasn't experienced with them yet.

I agree with her that the majority of the girls in her sorority are not like her, but with such a large group of girls, surely there are some that are. I'm just worried about her right now and hoping she finds her place soon.

A big hmmmm? to the statement in bold.

As others have said, your daughter needs to dive head first into her sorority. She needs to make an effort. I know she's your daughter and you want her to be happy, but life is going to throw disappointing situations her way, and she won't always get her first choice, but she needs to find a way to make her own happiness. She needs to give her chapter a chance.

Tell her to look at COB as a great opportunity to a) work with her new sisters, b) help grow the sisterhood, and c) find potential members that she likes and wants to be part of her chapter.

Being part of a sorority is hard work, and I don't just mean in terms of building friendships. There are going to be challenges to overcome and disputes to settle. It's not all ice cream cones dancing on rainbows. And I know from her perspective, it looks that way when she sees members of her top choice around campus. But I promise you, they're not perfect. They have their own problems. And on top of that, they didn't pick her to be their sister.

Your daughter needs to try to connect. And if she truly makes an effort and after six weeks, she's still not feeling it, she can drop before initiation. But she should keep in mind that this may be her only opportunity to be a part of an NPC sorority.

Try to get her to look at the positives and make friends with her new sisters.

Good luck to you both!

[FSUZeta]

Originally Posted by ASTalumna06

A big hmmmm? to the statement in bold.

As others have said, your daughter needs to dive head first into her sorority. She needs to make an effort. I know she's your daughter and you want her to be happy, but life is going to throw disappointing situations her way, and she won't always get her first choice, but she needs to find a way to make her own happiness. She needs to give her chapter a chance.

Tell her to look at COB as a great opportunity to a) work with her new sisters, b) help grow the sisterhood, and c) find potential members that she likes and wants to be part of her chapter.

Being part of a sorority is hard work, and I don't just mean in terms of building friendships. There are going to be challenges to overcome and disputes to settle. It's not all ice cream cones dancing on rainbows. And I know from her perspective, it looks that way when she sees members of her top choice around campus. But I promise you, they're not perfect. They have their own problems. And on top of that, they didn't pick her to be their sister.

Your daughter needs to try to connect. And if she truly makes an effort and after six weeks, she's still not feeling it, she can drop before initiation. But she should keep in mind that this may be her only opportunity to be a part of an NPC sorority.

Try to get her to look at the positives and make friends with her new sisters.

Good luck to you both!

Please see 3rd paragraph and share with your daughter. She has the opportunity to add girls she might have made friends with during rush to her sisterhood. Great girls who, for what ever reason, did not receive a bid. What a rare gift, as most new members don't have the ability to affect their chapter so early in their membership.