I got cut from a bunch of houses and I don't know why

[sdtennisgal]

Willala: I am not a regular poster here on GreekChat, but I just happened to see your post this morning, and I just wanted to try to give you a hug via the internet. Here are some thoughts (in no particular order):

1. Concentrate on the houses that have invited you back. They see things in you that make them interested in having you as a sister.
2. What is done is done, so don't look back. If you continue on with Greek life, you will see "...on the other side" that the recruitment process requires the houses to release a certain number of girls each round. Nobody on here can tell you why you were released, so just move forward. The worst thing you can do is compare yourself with other girls going through right now. You have no idea what their circumstances might be.
3. Rejection sucks. Any sort of rejection. But recruitment can be brutal. You mention you have a stellar GPA and lots of activities. But you attend UGA. Absent some really unusual circumstances every student entering UGA (...and UT, and UCLA, and UW, etc.) is going to have a really high GPA and outstanding activities.
4. Concentrate on point number 1 above. It is hard to see other girls with full schedules, but who knows what will happen to them tomorrow? Put the negativity out of your mind. If you visit the houses you have left still fixated on the sting of getting cut at other houses, there is a chance the "real you" might get masked by that negativity. I am not familiar with the UGA Greek system, but I can pretty much guarantee that all of the houses are stellar.
5. Finally: See point number 1 above.

Hang in there. There was something about your post that makes me think you are a really sweet girl (which is why I responded, instead of being a responsible mom and start my son's breakfast immediately). My guess is you have a lot to offer the groups that invited you back, and they have a lot to offer you. Again, see point number 1 above.

Good luck with the rest of recruitment!

[BraveMaroon]

I rushed at UGA back when it was still rush, and I got cut *hard* after first round, and again after second round, and again.... you get the idea. I made it through prefs, got a bid and lived happily ever after.

Granted, this was a long time ago.

You will never know why you got cut, and honestly, who cares? It's probably nothing you did, so don't obsess over it.

Hang in there, enjoy the houses you have left. You only get one bid, so stay in the game and focus on what's on your party list.

[KDCat]

Hang in there.

There's nothing wrong with you. Don't worry about why you were cut. It doesn't matter why they cut you. It really doesn't. Groups have to cut down their lists, and some groups have to make severe cuts. That has nothing to do with you. They may have really liked you, thought you would make a fine sister, but couldn't invite you back because of a whole bunch of reasons. (You are a legacy. You aren't a legacy. You are not in a sport and we need more athletes this year. You are in a sport and we have too many athletes. Whatever.)

By the end of recruitment, everybody is cut from all of the houses, except for the ones that they pref at. (1-3 at UGA?) And then they are cut again, down to one. Panhel only allows one bid per person. Everybody is going to get cut the same as you, sooner or later in this process.

Focus on the groups that you have left on your list. Give them a chance. Don't even think about who cut you. Think about the great opportunities you have with these other groups.

And don't even worry about what people say about "top houses" or "top tier." It's ridiculous high school stuff based on stereotypes. You're not in high school anymore, so don't let other people's high school behavior affect how you think and feel. Every house has terrific women in it, and every house has people who will be your lifelong friends.

[TXDG]

UGA Rush is extremely competitive; I'm not sure where you got the impression that it wasn't.

It sounds like you still have invitations left. I encourage you to finish the week and treat the houses you have left as if they are the only ones on campus. If you're open minded, I'm positive you'll find a home! Now that you know it's a competitive rush, you can hopefully appreciate that the chapters that have invited you back see something amazing in you for their sisterhood. All houses at UGA have to release girls, no matter what you may have read on any gossip sites. Also, look around at the other PNM's in line with you at these houses. They are the ones who will become your pledge class and future best friends and roomates.

I remember searching for answers as to why I got cut back when I rushed. What I can tell you from the "other side" is that unless girls are specifically cut for grades, reputation, etc, most of the time the houses would have liked to keep inviting you back if they could have invited more girls. There isn't anything "wrong" with you, per se.