Dumb rec question.

[Sciencewoman]

I wouldn't report a "she said-he said" middleman report. I'd let it go.

Just to be clear, you didn't actually tell her "let's email back and forth a couple times so I know you're not a total psycho." Right? Or, say that to the middleman friend? Because who knows what he has said to her. If she heard that, she might have been offended. Like you're offended. Maybe the friend is stirring you both up.

[AnotherKD]

Originally Posted by Sciencewoman

I wouldn't report a "she said-he said" middleman report. I'd let it go.

Just to be clear, you didn't actually tell her "let's email back and forth a couple times so I know you're not a total psycho." Right? Or, say that to the middleman friend? Because who knows what he has said to her. If she heard that, she might have been offended. Like you're offended. Maybe the friend is stirring you both up.

No, of course I didn't say that to anyone. Plus, I believe my friend. He does not stir stuff up. Plus, I've emailed her, reaffirmed the rec was sent, and it's been radio silence from her. A thanks would've been nice. (Edit: Or a no thanks, I changed my mind, sorry.) But I hear I went through it for nothing, that i put my own name on a rec for someone that I'm embarrassed to recommend to a chapter of my sorority, then yeah, I'm kind of peeved.