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Originally Posted by DZ_Turtle86
Since you didn't hear it straight from her, I wouldn't address it. People have commented time and again on this board how young and naive they were during recruitment when they thought they knew it all. This could be your friend's relative repeating what she's heard before recruitment even begins, not fully understanding the impact of her words. I would hate to ruin her chances before she gets to possibly have her own "aha" moment, when she realizes that her preconceived biases don't match reality and she regrets having ever said what she did. She could end up being a wonderful, mature leader in 4 years (or not...but let it be her own undoing).
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While I agree, to some degree, let me play devil's advocate. We typically say that it's important to have a good character to join a group. At least thank the person that wrote a rec. You may favor one over another because of whatever reason (this girl knew no one in her family who was Greek, so no legacy) but you should be a decent enough person to not give a big FU to the person that tried to help a bit. Plus, I completely believe my friend, and actually think that he dialed it down a bit to soften exactly all she said to spare my feelings. Just a hunch, as he won't go into it, but I trust what he said was spot on. There's a difference between being young and not knowing any better and being young and acting in a way that would be very unbecoming of any sorority woman. Just my $.02.
Thinking of responding to PMs from established GC members that ask for details.
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