The sorority i'm in is making me depressed

[lo52jo]

Originally Posted by 33girl

I doubt very much that the "pledging activities" are hazing,.more like "they suck because they aren't at my first choice sorority. "

I'm sorry that you were dirty rushed and lied to by your "first choice" because that is exactly what happened. You can keep being sad about a group who mistreated and misled you or try to be happy with the group who actually extended you a chance at sisterhood.

it is hazing but it doesn't bother me at all

[33girl]

Originally Posted by lo52jo

it is hazing but it doesn't bother me at all

What is it?

[PhilTau]

Isn't "pledging" now called new member orientation? Anyway, if you've gone through this for a month, isn't "pledging" almost over? I have to admit that I am one of the few who depledged a fraternity after a month of pledging and then pledged a different fraternity a year later. It wasn't an easy thing to do emotionally and I would not recommend trying it unless you have an abundance of self confidence and better than average social skills. (Though I am not saying that, at the time, I had either.)

Have you made one friend in your new sorority? If you have, I'd say treasure that one friendship and hang in there. Many people get depressed at college and chances are you are not be the only one in your "pledge" class that is having a problem. Most universities have mental health professionals on staff to help students with mental problems. Before you do anything, go see one of them.

Finally, if you quit your current sorority, you will not likely ever get an invitation to your first choice. There are things in life where you only get second choice, if you are lucky. Many people get 5th or 6th choice, if any.

[Sciencewoman]

Originally Posted by PhilTau

Isn't "pledging" now called new member orientation? Anyway, if you've gone through this for a month, isn't "pledging" almost over? I have to admit that I am one of the few who depledged a fraternity after a month of pledging and then pledged a different fraternity a year later. It wasn't an easy thing to do emotionally and I would not recommend trying it unless you have an abundance of self confidence and better than average social skills. (Though I am not saying that, at the time, I had either.)

Have you made one friend in your new sorority? If you have, I'd say treasure that one friendship and hang in there. Many people get depressed at college and chances are you are not be the only one in your "pledge" class that is having a problem. Most universities have mental health professionals on staff to help students with mental problems. Before you do anything, go see one of them.

Finally, if you quit your current sorority, you will not likely ever get an invitation to your first choice. There are things in life where you only get second choice, if you are lucky. Many people get 5th or 6th choice, if any.

This is good advice.

In addition, I am wondering about the sorority climate at your university. One chapter "dirty rushed" you and the one you joined is hazing. I think there are some issues going on that need to be addressed.