A brother in the fraternity I'm pledging is dating my ex

[navane]

Originally Posted by sialater

I know I shouldn't care and it's none of my business what this guy does with his free time, but it's super uncomfortable for me. I didn't know about this until after I accepted my bid. We talked about it and he seems really cool, but he did warn me that I would probably see her a lot around the house (cause he would bring her over). I'm expecting the "get over it" responses but the situation is much more delicate than that so it would be really preferable if I didn't see her. We are not on speaking terms to say the least. I'm only a pledge and I don't want to give them a bad impression of me, but at the same time I really need to tell him that I would be really uncomfortable with him bringing her over all the time. I don't see what the big deal is, the events are only for 2-3 hours, and he can see his gf right afterward. But he seems pretty insistent on bringing her over.

Is there anyway I can confront this?

I'm confused. Yesterday afternoon you posted a thread stressing over why other guys have gotten bids, but not you. Now, today, not only do you have a bid, but you're already attempting to tell a brother how and when he should spend time with his girlfriend? I understand that she is your ex-girlfriend; but, honestly, as a pledge, I just don't think you have enough grease to make those requests and you will most likely end up being THAT guy.

Originally Posted by AZTheta

Assuming you're serious and not a troll: have you considered getting some counseling or therapy or something along those lines? I mean that in the kindest way possible. Your insecurities appear to be crippling your ability to function as an adult.

I absolutely agree with this suggestion. sialater, I think you would benefit from chatting with a professional about what appear to be some very strong insecurities.