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Originally Posted by Let
I was told by my friend in a fraternity at my school that there's chapter meetings once a week and sometimes events.
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That's generally true as far as it goes, but based on my experience and observations, it doesn't got far enough. Those may be the "official" must-attend things, but there are likely other, more informal get-togethers And activities that matter as much if not more than meetings and official events, because they are where bonds of brotherhood are really built. And then there's the significant work that has to be done by members between meetings to keep the chapter running smoothly.
Let, I can understand the desire to have as normal a student life as you can and not miss out on opportunities that you may never have again. I can also understand the desire not to have life be nothing but school and parenthood—everyone needs to take a break from time to time and have outlets.
At this stage, here's the advice I have: If you and your SO decide together (and it should be something you decide together) that the benefits of fraternity membership are worth the time and energy away from her and the baby while you're a student, then just be sure you also discuss how she will also have regular time for herself. And as AZTheta said, do not be surprised if once the baby comes, you feel quite differently about how you want to spend time that you're not in class or studying.
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