Rushing with a baby on the way?

[Let]

Wow. I didn't think grammar and punctuation would matter on an online Greek forum lol. Maybe you shouldn't take yourself so seriously.

Anyway I do not think I need to get my priorities in order based on the information I had before this post. I was told by my friend in a fraternity at my school that there's chapter meetings once a week and sometimes events.

I do not know how it's like to have a child or if it could be managed. That's why I made this post. My thoughts were maybe someone has had a child here as well and would be able to give me their opinion. They did! So I don't think inquiring about this would make me not prioritized.

Maybe even the opposite since I wanted to make sure I would be able to manage before just jumping in.

Thank you for the kind replies. For the others, your grammar may be on point but your reasoning skills are poor.

[AZTheta]

Originally Posted by Let

Wow. I didn't think grammar and punctuation would matter on an online Greek forum lol. Maybe you shouldn't take yourself so seriously.

Anyway I do not think I need to get my priorities in order based on the information I had before this post. I was told by my friend in a fraternity at my school that there's chapter meetings once a week and sometimes events.

I do not know how it's like to have a child or if it could be managed. That's why I made this post. My thoughts were maybe someone has had a child here as well and would be able to give me their opinion. They did! So I don't think inquiring about this would make me not prioritized.

Maybe even the opposite since I wanted to make sure I would be able to manage before just jumping in.

Thank you for the kind replies. For the others, your grammar may be on point but your reasoning skills are poor.

I have a suggestion. See how things play out after the baby comes. You may feel completely differently when you hold that newborn in your arms.

And I do think you would benefit from reviewing what you write before you hit "post" or "send" or "submit". We are all prone to writing (or typing) grammatical errors. And if we rely on spell check or autocorrect, that can lead to all sorts of problems. Using a phone creates even more complications. Example: what you wrote that I just quoted has several mistakes, suggesting carelessness on the part of the author.

[33girl]

It amazes me how people say "it's just online, why should I bother with correct grammar?"

......and then use Wikipedia as a scholarly source.

When all anyone has to go on is your written word, carelessness with it will leave the impression that you are a careless person overall.

[DrPhil]

OP, something to keep in mind as you go about your business. You came here. Greekchat didn't seek you. You want to be in a GLO. A GLO isn't pursuing you. In other words, you are the initiator in all of this. You are also the nonGreek-with-a-baby-on-the-way in all of this. Be careful not to get snippy with people from whom you seek advice, membership in their GLO, and possibly even a huge favor (such as benefit of doubt). Get over yourself and good luck.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by Let

I was told by my friend in a fraternity at my school that there's chapter meetings once a week and sometimes events.

That's generally true as far as it goes, but based on my experience and observations, it doesn't got far enough. Those may be the "official" must-attend things, but there are likely other, more informal get-togethers And activities that matter as much if not more than meetings and official events, because they are where bonds of brotherhood are really built. And then there's the significant work that has to be done by members between meetings to keep the chapter running smoothly.

Let, I can understand the desire to have as normal a student life as you can and not miss out on opportunities that you may never have again. I can also understand the desire not to have life be nothing but school and parenthood—everyone needs to take a break from time to time and have outlets.

At this stage, here's the advice I have: If you and your SO decide together (and it should be something you decide together) that the benefits of fraternity membership are worth the time and energy away from her and the baby while you're a student, then just be sure you also discuss how she will also have regular time for herself. And as AZTheta said, do not be surprised if once the baby comes, you feel quite differently about how you want to spend time that you're not in class or studying.

[KD4Me]

Spend the time that you would have spent on a fraternity with your baby and girlfriend (making an assumption that she is your girlfriend). You will never get that time back. If you and the mother are together, focus on making it a lasting, permanent relationship--it will make your life less stressful and chaotic if you can stay together.

Sorry that you were offended by others correcting your grammar, but remember your audience when you are addressing anyone. You came here to ask advice, why wouldn't you want to present yourself in the best way possible? We're not your best friends and this isn't text messaging. A stronger level of formality is appropriate.

There's my motherly advice for the day!