Good topic!!!
I didn’t suicide, I put down 3 choices. My first choice was not only the one I wanted most, but the one I thought I was most likely to get a bid from. My second choice was a lot like my first choice, only larger. The 3rd choice was a really cool group of girls, but I didn’t feel like I would ever fit in with them – I’d never be pretty or well-dressed or popular enough. Any way, I remember waiting to get picked up at my dorm and thinking “oh $h!t, I hope it’s my 1st choice and not my second!” which it was.
I think I could have been happy in any of these groups, knowing they wanted me. But not everyone experiences that. We had a lot of girls in our chapter who had suicided, just because we were a lot different than the other houses and they would have felt hideously uncomfortable anywhere else.
If you are a sophomore or above, you’ve been around all the orgs for a while and know that there is only one you want and anything else would be a horrible comedown, then I would say suiciding probably is not an altogether bad thing.
But if you’re a 1st semester freshman and your whole view is based on what you’ve seen in formal rush, I would not suicide. A lot of formal rush is “show” and the one with the best show might not be the one that’s right for you.
Siobhan – I can’t believe they would penalize the girls and not let them join if they suicide. I mean it’s not AGAINST NPC rules, just “strongly discouraged.”
And Zeta Ace – re Rho Chi’s - yes that is so no one thinks they’re biased. Their whole purpose is to help the rushee do what is right for her (which is not always what might help their sorority).
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