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Old 10-31-2014, 05:34 AM
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No. No. No. You don't get to tell your organization what to do.

And you can voluntarily resign at any point in the process.

Look - you can't dictate to anyone. You are on such thin ice that I can hear it cracking.




It does not appear that you are listening. You're still doing a lot of "yes but" and blaming and casting shade on them. Your pattern of behavior is what got you to this point, regardless of anything else.



No she did entirely new things which were still under the umbrella of "conduct unbecoming". I ask you to put yourself in someone else's shoes and read everything you've written. Now, what do YOU think?

ETA: either you're a troll, or you're just unbelievably obtuse and can't accept responsibility for your own actions.

wow. i gotta say your post hit me like a pound of bricks, definitely hurtful being called obtuse. nevertheless, i am really happy for your posts, as well as others.


i'm not a very skilled communicator. everything i write or say tends to be really wordy and go off on many tangents. i also feel i must have a very different process of mental reasoning and understanding than other people, because i often misunderstand others and others often misunderstand me and my intentions.

you're a very insightful individual… from just reading a few posts of mine, it seems like you were able to understand some of my issues very well. i literally just had a discussion earlier this week with a counselor and the same terminology of my "yes, but.." reasoning and communication was used.

obviously this is indicative of one of probably many flaws i have. i understand why that may make it seem like i am an unsuitable candidate for sorority membership. however, i think that despite my flaws i am able to contribute to the sorority in more ways than i would threaten or be detrimental to it. perhaps my thinking is wrong, because obviously I'm biased since its about me. i don't know. perhaps it is true that i am not worthy of membership in a sorority.

i hope that's not the case, because as i said i do feel really strongly that i deserve to be able to continue to be involved. i know i could do a lot of good things and be very hard working and devoted. i also know there's several sisters who have learned about the situation and definitely feel that i was mistreated and that there are certain huge issues with our chapter.


well, like pretty much everything i say… this post kinda jumped all over the place. but as a concluding point i guess id like to say that i really appreciate the feedback that's been posted so far. i may be flawed, but one positive trait i have that many don't is an extreme desire and drive for self-improvement and trying to learn and change based off of constructive criticism of others.


therefore, if you have any other suggestions or comments you'd like to share, i would appreciate it. i value what you all have to say!
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Old 10-31-2014, 05:54 AM
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wow. i gotta say your post hit me like a pound of bricks, definitely hurtful being called obtuse. nevertheless, i am really happy for your posts, as well as others.


i'm not a very skilled communicator. everything i write or say tends to be really wordy and go off on many tangents. i also feel i must have a very different process of mental reasoning and understanding than other people, because i often misunderstand others and others often misunderstand me and my intentions.

you're a very insightful individual… from just reading a few posts of mine, it seems like you were able to understand some of my issues very well. i literally just had a discussion earlier this week with a counselor and the same terminology of my "yes, but.." reasoning and communication was used.

obviously this is indicative of one of probably many flaws i have. i understand why that may make it seem like i am an unsuitable candidate for sorority membership. however, i think that despite my flaws i am able to contribute to the sorority in more ways than i would threaten or be detrimental to it. perhaps my thinking is wrong, because obviously I'm biased since its about me. i don't know. perhaps it is true that i am not worthy of membership in a sorority.

i hope that's not the case, because as i said i do feel really strongly that i deserve to be able to continue to be involved. i know i could do a lot of good things and be very hard working and devoted. i also know there's several sisters who have learned about the situation and definitely feel that i was mistreated and that there are certain huge issues with our chapter.


well, like pretty much everything i say… this post kinda jumped all over the place. but as a concluding point i guess id like to say that i really appreciate the feedback that's been posted so far. i may be flawed, but one positive trait i have that many don't is an extreme desire and drive for self-improvement and trying to learn and change based off of constructive criticism of others.


therefore, if you have any other suggestions or comments you'd like to share, i would appreciate it. i value what you all have to say!
I'm having a sleepless night and I just can't give you any more. Maybe some other GCers will wake up and have something to say to you. Your extrapolating is too exhausting for me. I'm not saying you're Breaking Bad: the sequel. I'm saying that further conversation with you on my part isn't prudent or beneficial. Obtuse in the sense of slow to understand; be glad I didn't use recalcitrant, fractious, or annoying.
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Old 10-31-2014, 06:21 AM
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Wow. It seems as though you and this chapter were a bad fit from the get-go (being extremely euphemistic here).

If you believe that the networking and volunteer opportunities your org provides are that incredibly awesome, go for it and plead your case to national, but also realize that people talk and it's not a clean slate.

It goes without saying that retaining your membership status will not necessarily result in what we term "sisterhood. "
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