THE "bottom" sorority

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by irishpipes

The big and beautiful Greek houses aren't just vanity splurgenly for recruiting, but for bonding and sisterhood. Large chapters DO have trouble bonding if they don't have a home base. It isn't the be all and end all of the sorority experience, but it is important to chapter operations. We all can see how it impacts recruiting if everyone else has a house and your chapter doesn't.

No one is saying that this isn't the case.

The fact is, the OP's daughter's chapter doesn't have a house, so she has to make the best out of what she's been dealt. I don't see where anyone is out of line in attempting to find solutions to make things easier. Making friendships in this situation will require work. It's a struggle for a new chapter to establish itself on any campus. The people here offering up ways for the daughter to connect with her sisters and suggesting that she try to put her best foot forward and be proud of her chapter don't seem to be out of line. And these things can be carried over to any school.

In the end, the daughter needs to try to get past the reputation, connect with her sisters, wear her letters with pride, and figure out a way to be happy in her new chapter, regardless of what others think. If she doesn't, then her collegiate sorority experience will drag and be terrible.. or she'll drop and be on the outside looking in. I'm willing to bet she wants neither of those situations to come to fruition.

The daughter already sounds like she's getting used to things and seeing past the rumors and gossip. From the mom's post, she made it sound like she was struggling with this more than the daughter. If that's the case, she needs to move past that and support her daughter and her chapter.

ETA: By the way, it wasn't known until the end of page 1 that this was even an SEC/competitive campus (because carnation figured it out), so people were speaking generally, rather than specifically to a post that read, "My daughter attends an SEC school with over 100 girls in her pledge class, and her chapter doesn't have a house and the PNMs don't want to join because of that.. blah blah blah". Instead, people were responding to the OP saying that her daughter was unhappy, she's warming up to the house, and her and her sisters are trying to figure out how to bond.