University of Alabama Fall 2014 NPC Sorority Recruitment

[PinkSkyAtNight]

Originally Posted by OldOleMiss

Just ran into my PITA PNM's father-- according to him she withdrew two days ago because "SEC recruitment was 'biased' and she was only left with 7 houses for skit; none of which were considered "tops"-- I couldn't hold my tongue any longer and point blank told him that perhaps the problem was not with "SEC recruitment" but rather with his disagreeable and snobbish daughter-- that considering she was a northern OOS girl with zero connections having 7 invites was considered by many to be a "perfect rush" and I found it very hard to believe that she could not find one single thing she liked about any of the seven.

Personally I held off saying what I really wanted to which was good riddance--- In my opinion those 7 houses dodged a major bullet.

Can I hug you?

Agreed, they dodged a major bullet, especially if the parents were in agreement with their daughter's bad attitude. Nothing worse than dealing with an entire family of people who think they are above others.

[OldOleMiss]

Ha! Thanks Pink-- I CLEARLY need hugs today!!! (Is it too late to blame the super moon on my super bad mood?)

[AGDee]

Alternately, I wonder if she was dropped completely and couldn't tell her Dad that?

[MaryPoppins]

Originally Posted by OldOleMiss

In my opinion those 7 houses dodged a major bullet.

Sounds like they dodged a surface to air missile!

[OldOleMiss]

Knowing this family the way I do AGDee I seriously doubt that- aside from being a pretentious snot- this girl "looks good" on paper-- very pretty, great grades, high level of involvement, etc… I just honestly think she (and family) thought that just because she was top dog at her very small very exclusive northern prep school-- that every house "down south" would be clamoring for her. The mother actually asked me "how my house ranked" when I offered to write for her. Damn I should have just kept my mouth shut-- at the time I thought I was doing this girl and the family a favor considering they knew NOTHING about sorority life let alone SEC recruitment-- ah well as I said bullet dodged for the houses at Alabama and lesson learned for this alum!

[PinkSkyAtNight]

Originally Posted by OldOleMiss

Knowing this family the way I do AGDee I seriously doubt that- aside from being a pretentious snot- this girl "looks good" on paper-- very pretty, great grades, high level of involvement, etc… I just honestly think she (and family) thought that just because she was top dog at her very small very exclusive northern prep school-- that every house "down south" would be clamoring for her. The mother actually asked me "how my house ranked" when I offered to write for her. Damn I should have just kept my mouth shut-- at the time I thought I was doing this girl and the family a favor considering they knew NOTHING about sorority life let alone SEC recruitment-- ah well as I said bullet dodged for the houses at Alabama and lesson learned for this alum!

I have not been asked this question by any of the young women or mothers who've approached me for recs. However, I think all my muscles would tense up if someone asked me how my house ranked. It is revealing when a parent is participating and actually condoning this type of attitude. Parents should realize that they are hurting their kids by taking being anything other than "Panhellenic". Chances are, if the parents had a more hands-off aproach and a whatever happens, happens attitude, she might have hung in there and could have been happy with a bid tomorrow.

[lake]

Originally Posted by OldOleMiss

The mother actually asked me "how my house ranked" when I offered to write for her. Damn I should have just kept my mouth shut-- at the time I thought I was doing this girl and the family a favor considering they knew NOTHING about sorority life let alone SEC recruitment--

Wow, what a bitchy, ignorant thing to say to someone who offered to write a rec. People like this disgust me. So preoccupied with some perceived status, and they end up exposing themselves as shallow, ignorant ingrates with no class.

I think it would be an honor to get a bid from ANY chapter at Alabama, because it's so damn competitive. I just can't fathom how some people (idiots) assume that some groups there are "less than". Just wow.

[MaryPoppins]

Originally Posted by lake

I think it would be an honor to get a bid from ANY chapter at Alabama, because it's so damn competitive. I just can't fathom how some people (idiots) assume that some groups there are "less than". Just wow.

^^^^This. As Walker Percy says in Lanterns On The Levee, "Bottom rail on top." It's just so much better than saying "parvenu" because the ijits might actually understand it about thirty minutes after you'd have left.

[AOIILisa]

Originally Posted by OldOleMiss

The mother actually asked me "how my house ranked" when I offered to write for her.

What an entitled ass! I'm glad the daughter won't be in any of the sororities, as you said, bullet dodged.

[ChioLu]

Originally Posted by catfan

They also take the phones to keep PNMs and chapter members from texting each other. I know for a fact, that after the PNM's get there phones back, they text friends at the chapter to tell their friends how they ranked. It's one of the realities of easy communication these days. Much like social media being an influence in everyday life.

Um ... so Panhellenic doesn't know you can PM friends on facebook or text someone from your computer???

[Griffins&Quills]

I think it's also in part to deter use of certain apps, one very popular app in particular

[Nanners52674]

Originally Posted by DGTess

I guess it is what it is, but there's no way I'd give up my phone. Turn it off, yes. Not give it up.

Good grief, really. My chapter used to collect phones before meetings and honestly it was great, things moved a lot faster and everyone was focused on what was going on at chapter and not a million other things.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by DGTess

I don't understand this, either. If they're old enough to ask and consider advice, they're old enough to consider the consequences.

Anyway, I'm done. That the majority (of adults!) is willing to give up individuality (at least at these big schools; I don't know about everywhere) in order to "fit in" says a lot about our society.

Now you're being silly. They're not giving up individuality. They're giving up a phone for a matter of hours.

Did you read my rush story? I mentioned my friend who ended up not being Greek at all because she kept listening to everything everyone put in her ear - some of them being completely well meaning, I believe. Well take that and enlarge it to Godzilla size and put it on steroids, and that's what these girls are dealing with at Bama. Not to mention the pressure that the girls in the chapters feel to get the "best" PNMs.

I mean, not everyone can have a pen pal writing them letters for a year and then in a complete non-surprise, decide to pledge that sorority, especially with 2200 women rushing. If taking phones prevents one girl from getting dirty rushed or making a choice out of pressure (well-meaning or not) it's absolutely worth it.

ChiOLu - silly goose!!! Facebook is for old people now

[DrPhil]

Tiny Font Lane swerve/

Can I just add that the nature of GLO membership is giving up aspects of individuality when applicable. People who need to do their own thing 100% of the time are not suitable for GLO membership (at least at the collegiate level) and usually either won't be selected for membership or won't last long as a collegiate member.

/Tiny Font Lane swerve

[Low D Flat]

just because she was top dog at her very small very exclusive northern prep school

This northern Ivy Leaguer is having a good chuckle over this family's delusion. Either the school wasn't really exclusive, or she wasn't really top dog, because the real top dogs at those schools don't go to Alabama. Of course, I know that UA and other SEC schools do attract many top dogs (by every possible definition) from other regions and other social groups. But at exclusive Northern prep schools, going to UA means either you couldn't get into good private schools or your family needed a huge scholarship, which are not top-dog attributes.