Disaffiliating membership and joining a different fratnerity after transferring.

[xyumph]

Thank you for the response SoCalGirl.

I didn't think of reporting anonymously, so that is something I could consider.

And yes, alumni status seems to be the easiest option, but I don't want to risk being ostracized socially at the new school, which could possibly worsen my condition.

[33girl]

Are you going to a new school 10 miles down the road where everyone will know what your current fraternity is like? If not, I don't think anyone is going to "ostracize" you.

I would go ahead and officially resign through your headquarters. Once you're free and clear, you can rush at your new school. I would be honest and tell them you were in a fraternity at your old school but you resigned because things were happening that you weren't comfortable with. They can take that however.

Even if you don't end up going Greek at your new school, I think it's important for your mental health to resign. You need to just say "I was wrong, I made a mistake in judgment" and MOVE ON. If you have that sitting in your lap it's going to fester and remind you and make you continually doubt yourself. Which you do not need. Good luck!