Universities Under Investigation Re: Handling Sexual Assault

[AGDee]

Originally Posted by ASTalumna06

Interesting, seeing as how you're the only one here carrying on and on about this "crisis"...

I pointed out to her pages ago that she was the only one who used that term in this thread.

I would be hard pressed to find anybody who thought a false accusation was ok. People who make false accusations only make it worse for real victims because it reinforces the idea that victims are not really victims. It's a horrific thing to do to the man being accused and to all of the rest of us as well. I can't even imagine anybody here disagreeing with that point.

The fact remains that there are far fewer false accusations than there are unreported rapes. And statistics say that a rape occurs every 2 minutes in this country. A significant number of those go unreported because society is so harsh on the victims.

[honorgal]

Originally Posted by AGDee

I pointed out to her pages ago that she was the only one who used that term in this thread.

I would be hard pressed to find anybody who thought a false accusation was ok. People who make false accusations only make it worse for real victims because it reinforces the idea that victims are not really victims. It's a horrific thing to do to the man being accused and to all of the rest of us as well. I can't even imagine anybody here disagreeing with that point.

The fact remains that there are far fewer false accusations than there are unreported rapes. And statistics say that a rape occurs every 2 minutes in this country. A significant number of those go unreported because society is so harsh on the victims.

When this is so commonly representative of the typical college campus victim, I predict society will continue to be harsh:

But in the midwinter of 2013, Sendrow says, she was in her room with a guy with whom she’d been hooking up for three months. They’d now decided — mutually, she thought — just to be friends. When he ended up falling asleep on her bed, she changed into pajamas and climbed in next to him. Soon, he was putting his arm around her and taking off her clothes. “I basically said, ‘No, I don’t want to have sex with you.’ And then he said, ‘Okay, that’s fine’ and stopped,” Sendrow told me. “And then he started again a few minutes later, taking off my panties, taking off his boxers. I just kind of laid there and didn’t do anything — I had already said no. I was just tired and wanted to go to bed. I let him finish. I pulled my panties back on and went to sleep.”

http://www.phillymag.com/articles/ra...ssaults/?all=1

I find it hard to believe anyone would want their college age daughters to accept this message of passivity, ambivalence and victimhood that's being pressed by today's feminists. What a mockery.

[SydneyK]

Originally Posted by honorgal

I find it hard to believe anyone would want their college age daughters to accept this message of passivity, ambivalence and victimhood that's being pressed by today's feminists. What a mockery.

Why the crusade, honorgal? Clearly, you feel a need to discuss this ad nauseam, but why you feel such a need is beyond me. No one here has said they want their college age daughters to accept this message; no one here (but you) has labeled this situation as a 'crisis'; no one here (but you) keeps bringing up (bumping) the discussion just to figuratively say, "there's nothing to see here, so stop talking about it!" I just don't get it. Do you need to get something off your chest? Did one of your sons get falsely accused of rape or something?

I'm not trying to be combative, I'm just trying to understand where you're coming from. When someone gets on a soapbox the way you have, they tend to provide some background for perspective. Otherwise, it just seems like an unwarranted rant.

[honorgal]

Originally Posted by SydneyK

Why the crusade, honorgal? Clearly, you feel a need to discuss this ad nauseam, but why you feel such a need is beyond me. No one here has said they want their college age daughters to accept this message; no one here (but you) has labeled this situation as a 'crisis'; no one here (but you) keeps bringing up (bumping) the discussion just to figuratively say, "there's nothing to see here, so stop talking about it!" I just don't get it. Do you need to get something off your chest? Did one of your sons get falsely accused of rape or something?

I'm not trying to be combative, I'm just trying to understand where you're coming from. When someone gets on a soapbox the way you have, they tend to provide some background for perspective. Otherwise, it just seems like an unwarranted rant.

Hmmm, I guess I assumed, from the subject matter of this board that some posters were at least tangentially interested in today's college campuses. The navel gazing is interesting, to say the least.

And I'm going to assume that you are being deliberately obtuse by mischaracterizing what I'm saying (figuratively or not) that there's "nothing to see here so stop talking about it." The media and activists keep insisting there is a crisis, ad nauseum. (ie, the reaction to Miss USA). The federal government is reacting to "the crisis" in typical fashion....more nonsensical regulations, more beauracrats, more sensitivity training, more money spent on fluff that drives up the cost of tuition. Does one have to have a hidden agenda to react negatively to that?

For the record, I don't. Two sons and neither of them have ever been accused of anything. I do have a perspective that some of you probably don't have, having a front row seat to a college campus environment.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by honorgal

I do have a perspective that some of you probably don't have, having a front row seat to a college campus environment.

Anyway......

As for anything new, Dr. Phil, two things:

1) Five schools added to the list: University of Alaska system, the University of Delaware, Elmira College in New York, the University of Akron in Ohio and Cisco Junior College in Texas.

2) Some schools have released responses. At least one school is claiming this is just a routine audit:

http://news.iu.edu/releases/iu/2014/...tigation.shtml

[DrPhil]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

As for anything new, Dr. Phil, two things:

1) Five schools added to the list: University of Alaska system, the University of Delaware, Elmira College in New York, the University of Akron in Ohio and Cisco Junior College in Texas.

2) Some schools have released responses. At least one school is claiming this is just a routine audit:

http://news.iu.edu/releases/iu/2014/...tigation.shtml

Originally Posted by SydneyK

Dr. Phil, in an attempt to bring something new to the discussion, are you familiar with the University of Kentucky's green dot/VIP program?

http://www.uky.edu/StudentAffairs/VIPCenter/learn_greendot.php

Thank you.