Going back to college for another degree and rushing a fraternity, advice?

[Signed up user]

Well if it helps I am in good shape and tend to relate well with guys in their early 20s as opposed to mid 20s guys my age (26).

[thetalady]

Originally Posted by Signed up user

Well if it helps I am in good shape and tend to relate well with guys in their early 20s as opposed to mid 20s guys my age (26).

You really have to quit trying to justify your desire to join a fraternity and maybe read what people here are telling you. IF you have already made up your mind, then there is no point in asking for our opinion.

Social fraternities are primarily younger men, 18-22. You know that. You are significantly older, and hopefully more mature, than that. How are you going to feel taking orders & training (for lack of a better term) from 19-20 year olds? Yes, there will certainly be some members that are older than the norm, but the majority of fraternity members are going to be much younger than you.

Social fraternities also have lots of parties and planned activities with 18-22 yr old college girls. It will be pretty creepy, and even a bit lecherous, for you to socialize with those college girls. Just not a good idea.

Please consider looking for other avenues to bond with a more appropriate group of students when you get to ASU.

[Signed up user]

I wouldn't have any problems that you listed above, I did my research. My question was not about the morals of the whole thing, just whether it can be done. And no other avenues are just, for a lack of a better word, lame. I prefer to be friends with young guys who know how to party but also have a sense of a brotherhood.

Nothing creepy about a 26 year old guy with a 21 yr old girl, I have met plenty of couples like this.

[clemsongirl]

Originally Posted by Signed up user

I wouldn't have any problems that you listed above, I did my research. My question was not about the morals of the whole thing, just whether it can be done. And no other avenues are just, for a lack of a better word, lame. I prefer to be friends with young guys who know how to party but also have a sense of a brotherhood.

Nothing creepy about a 26 year old guy with a 21 yr old girl, I have met plenty of couples like this.

Most of the girls that go to fraternity parties, at least in my experience, do so at least in part because they aren't old enough to legally consume alcohol. I would imagine that there will be a whole lot more 18- and 20-year olds than 21-year-olds at these hypothetical fraternity parties you're attending, and I would certainly classify that age difference as creepy.

More important than the age difference, though, is the life experience difference. You, an adult who already has gone through undergrad, would be partying with young girls who have just left home for the first time and are in a completely different place than you are lifewise. If you don't mention your age at parties it might not be a huge issue, but you might find that you don't want to spend a lot of time with girls (and guys) who are still teenagers.

In short, if you want to rush then clearly we can't stop you, and you seem to have made up your mind already. Just don't be surprised if it doesn't end up working out in your favor.

Originally Posted by DubaiSis

It's gonna work out great. Go through rush, have an awesome time and let us know which badge you choose for initiation!

<3

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by Signed up user

I wouldn't have any problems that you listed above, I did my research. My question was not about the morals of the whole thing, just whether it can be done. And no other avenues are just, for a lack of a better word, lame. I prefer to be friends with young guys who know how to party but also have a sense of a brotherhood.

Nothing creepy about a 26 year old guy with a 21 yr old girl, I have met plenty of couples like this.

We get that you wouldn't have any problems with any of this. You don't seem to get that members of chapters, whose decision it would be to offer a bid, and members of sororities with which they socialize very well may have a problem with it. They might not, but I certainly wouldn't count on it. That's leaving aside the question of whether, as a grad student, you would be eligible to receive a bid to start with.

And if you think a fraternity-like sense of brotherhood is impossible to find in "the real world," you haven't looked hard enough.

[Pythia]

Originally Posted by Signed up user

I wouldn't have any problems that you listed above, I did my research. My question was not about the morals of the whole thing, just whether it can be done. And no other avenues are just, for a lack of a better word, lame. I prefer to be friends with young guys who know how to party but also have a sense of a brotherhood.

Nothing creepy about a 26 year old guy with a 21 yr old girl, I have met plenty of couples like this.

[Signed up user]

Well I was just asking about whether it is possible as in if it can be done, not about the morals behind it. And yes, it is impossible to find a brotherhood like a college fraternity once you are out of college.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by Signed up user

Well I was just asking about whether it is possible as in if it can be done, not about the morals behind it.

Nobody was talking about the morals of anything. You asked if it is possible. You were told that it may be possible, but that it also may be very unlikely. You were then given reasons why it might be very unlikely.

And yes, it is impossible to find a brotherhood like a college fraternity once you are out of college.

I am a guy who has been out of college for over 30 years. It is not impossible. At all.

Unless, of course, your idea of brotherhood is simply partying and getting wasted with other guys. If that's the case, I'd say your concept of "brotherhood" is pretty sad. Yes, it's still possible to find, but you do have to look harder because most other guys have grown up.

[thetalady]

Originally Posted by Pythia

NEWBIE FOR THE WIN!