If you are ready to offer someone membership, then give them a bid with a deadline to accept or not and let the cards fall where they may. If it is a no, then you stop inviting them to things. No, you don't get the benefits of membership (attending events) if you aren't a member. Period.
If you are ready to offer someone membership, then give them a bid with a deadline to accept or not and let the cards fall where they may. If it is a no, then you stop inviting them to things. No, you don't get the benefits of membership (attending events) if you aren't a member. Period.
Nowhere did the OP say that they were being invited to official fraternity functions. "Hanging around with" doesn't = rush party or other party. It would be a sad commentary if the only people of the same sex that a fraternity man had time for are his brothers or people who were pledging.
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Nowhere did the OP say that they were being invited to official fraternity functions. "Hanging around with" doesn't = rush party or other party. It would be a sad commentary if the only people of the same sex that a fraternity man had time for are his brothers or people who were pledging.
I did interpret that as attending parties at the house as a PNM, not just a friend of a couple of the guys. Perhaps the OP could clarify what "hanging out" meant in this context.
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