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[33girl]

Are you making friends with them because you enjoy their company or are you only making friends with them hoping you can talk them into pledging?

If you're doing it right, THEY should tell YOU they want to pledge. If they honestly say things like "I can be your friend without paying," then honestly, they do not get it, and you really don't want them as brothers.

[Sen's Revenge]

Originally Posted by 33girl

If they honestly say things like "I can be your friend without paying," then honestly, they do not get it, and you really don't want them as brothers.

Absolutely this.

When trying to recruit a friend into my professional fraternity for artists, he literally spent 45 minutes explaining to me that he fundamentally has a problem with Greek letter organizations. It took everything I had to tell him "Dude, it takes seconds to just say 'No thanks!'"

I bring this up because the whole "I can be your friend without paying" thing was one of his bullet points.

[als463]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Are you making friends with them because you enjoy their company or are you only making friends with them hoping you can talk them into pledging?

If you're doing it right, THEY should tell YOU they want to pledge. If they honestly say things like "I can be your friend without paying," then honestly, they do not get it, and you really don't want them as brothers.

I agree with this. I would also say that I've seen women who never saw themselves as the "sorority-type" and they later joined. I've helped women see the benefit of membership through philanthropy and other things like that. You could talk about the benefits and find out what the PNMs may care about most. Some people are really stuck on wanting to network and make connections. There are Alumni Associations for that! Some really care about philanthropy and making a difference. Every GLO that I know of has some philanthropy to get behind. Sure, everyone can be friends minus having to pay the money but, it's not really about the money. Maybe you have payment plans if money is an issue for some of these PNMs. Some people may also benefit from living in the house, if that is a possibility (I know some places don't have houses). It's cheaper many times to live in the house than on campus or off. There are many benefits to membership. You just have to figure out what would appeal to each particular PNM. Good luck!