bid day gone wrong..so sorry this is long but heres my story

[pinapple]

My friends are in the PLEDGE class for that sorority

That says it all. Which means they have NO idea what went on during the recruitment process on the "active" side. Your friends may tell you the actives know you, they my even think you "dropped" them, but the truth is they know nothing. With RFM, they had to have filled their quota before your number came up. If they wanted you sooooo bad you would have been on the top of their bid list which would have placed you in their house. I think you need to pull your head out of your butt and realize you were not screwed. You were just not their first choice. Does it suck? Yes, but you have no choice but to get over it. You were another house's first choice and in my mind you screwed them over by not even giving them a choice. So now two houses didn't want you, one did but you told them to take a hike so you will go into your next recruitment down three house. Good luck with that.

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by pinapple

That says it all. Which means they have NO idea what went on during the recruitment process on the "active" side. Your friends may tell you the actives know you, they my even think you "dropped" them, but the truth is they know nothing. With RFM, they had to have filled their quota before your number came up. If they wanted you sooooo bad you would have been on the top of their bid list which would have placed you in their house. I think you need to pull your head out of your butt and realize you were not screwed. You were just not their first choice. Does it suck? Yes, but you have no choice but to get over it. You were another house's first choice and in my mind you screwed them over by not even giving them a choice. So now two houses didn't want you, one did but you told them to take a hike so you will go into your next recruitment down three house. Good luck with that.

Ding ding ding!

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[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by pinapple

That says it all. Which means they have NO idea what went on during the recruitment process on the "active" side. Your friends may tell you the actives know you, they my even think you "dropped" them, but the truth is they know nothing. With RFM, they had to have filled their quota before your number came up. If they wanted you sooooo bad you would have been on the top of their bid list which would have placed you in their house. I think you need to pull your head out of your butt and realize you were not screwed. You were just not their first choice. Does it suck? Yes, but you have no choice but to get over it. You were another house's first choice and in my mind you screwed them over by not even giving them a choice. So now two houses didn't want you, one did but you told them to take a hike so you will go into your next recruitment down three house. Good luck with that.

Beyond her friends being NM's...in many chapters, the final bid list is only seen by a very small number of people. I don't want to get into MS, obviously, but as an example, the active members are unlikely to all see every PNM's GPA or see how that factors into bid list preparation. So many of the women in the chapter could have thought the OP was really a sure thing, but none of them really know where she was. The bottom line is that she wasn't high enough on 1 or 2's list to get a bid.