re-pledging...is this a thing?

[pinksequins]

OP (dz.lys), this breakdown may be helpful to you:

1. If the recruitment event is for a local sorority (and not for either DZ or an NPC group), then local Panhellenic rules control and you could seek membership in the local.

2. If instead you are seeking to be reinstated in DZ, eligibility for reinstatement is determined at the International HQ level. If HQ determines that you are eligible, it will tell you if it is as an alumna or as a collegian. ONLY if you are eligible as a collegian, does the collegiate chapter have a say on the matter.

3. No, not all NPC groups are the same on reinstatement policy. DZ's policy may be very different from that for other NPC groups. Only DZ's policy governs or matters. This is why everyone is advising you to contact DZ International HQ.

4. The one unanimous position for all of the NPC groups is that once you are initiated into one NPC group, you may never join a different NPC group. Local, yes; NPC, no.

[Cheerio]

Not looking for any fight here, but from personal experience: persons who are deaf do not always understand things as we in the hearing world understand them, even when those things are carefully explained. They sometimes become stubborn in wanting their own way.

IMO the OP was posting/reacting as some deaf persons I know react, with emotion and heart and not head.

[thetalady]

Originally Posted by dz.lys.91

Considering I was invited to the event, I don't think it would be an intrusion.
Also, I have no idea how my words have been twisted to be a negative thing. I was specifically invited by the president of this chapter to this event. I was also asked by several sisters to come. IF in the event I am asked to leave, I will not be making a scene about it. I am simply going where I have been invited to go.
IF, at recruitment, my Chapter director states that I need to make a formal request through headquarters, I will discuss more indepth with that person.

I would like to clarify that NONE of this was meant to be perceived as me taking advantage of a situation. I was not ASKED to leave my sorority, I felt the need to because I was going through extreme personal issues and financial issues. Now that I am back on my own two feet and I have been invited to the organization's recruitment event, I don't see the harm in going.

It doesn't matter if you were asked to resign from your sorority or you made the decision on your own. You are NOT a member of your sorority. You are not an alumna, either. You should not be attending recruitment events. It is really simple.... You are not eligible to rush. Period.

And depending on your sorority's rules, you may or may not be eligible for membership reinstatement. It may not even be up to the chapter to allow or deny.

and now I'll listen as the wind swooshes past......

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by dz.lys.91

I'd like to update you all on my situation, we have a recruitment event coming up with the organization of my choice tomorrow.
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Then I will talk with our CCD and our new president about my situation. I would like to clarify that the reasons for leaving were financial and personal. I am hoping with my situation having improved, and a large group of girls that I am still close with, that I can plead my case and come back better than ever.

Thanks for all your help.

I won't pretend to know the reinstatement procedures for any NPC other than my own, but I'm willing to bet that all of them would not leave this decision solely up to the chapter into which you were initiated. YOU NEED TO CONTACT YOUR (INTER)NATIONAL HQ before you do anything. So many people have said this to you, and yet your thought is: 1) Attend recruitment event, 2) Talk to the president of the chapter, and 3) Become an active sister again.

THIS IS NOT HOW IT WORKS.

Originally Posted by dz.lys.91

Considering I was invited to the event, I don't think it would be an intrusion.
Also, I have no idea how my words have been twisted to be a negative thing. I was specifically invited by the president of this chapter to this event. I was also asked by several sisters to come. IF in the event I am asked to leave, I will not be making a scene about it. I am simply going where I have been invited to go.
IF, at recruitment, my Chapter director states that I need to make a formal request through headquarters, I will discuss more indepth with that person.

I would like to clarify that NONE of this was meant to be perceived as me taking advantage of a situation. I was not ASKED to leave my sorority, I felt the need to because I was going through extreme personal issues and financial issues. Now that I am back on my own two feet and I have been invited to the organization's recruitment event, I don't see the harm in going.

It doesn't matter why you left. You left. You are no longer a sister.

Bringing this up to the Chapter Director AT the recruitment event is NOT the way to go about this. It's completely inappropriate. The recruitment event is held to get to know potential members, NOT to talk to you about your problems.

Just because the president invited you does not mean that she is right in doing so. You may show up and other sisters could be pissed. As others have pointed out, you're now getting for free what other sisters are paying for. That's not fair to anyone. Why put yourself in that position?

If your (inter)national organization decides that you can be reinstated and your chapter still loves you as much as you claim, then you'll have no problem going back to them. However, you're going about this all backwards. You need to be patient and go through the proper channels to get this done. Don't make the chapter think that everything is fixed before it actually is, only to have them find out later that you're trying to "sneak" back in the wrong way (especially when we're telling you what the correct way is). Be respectful!