Not connecting with my Big?

[ADPiEE]

I think the big/little thing has become really overrated lately and I'm not sure why? I see it hyped up over social media.
Yes, sometimes she ends up being your best friend but not all of the time (I'd say not even most of the time). I didn't connect with my "big" at all and we never even hung out. I bonded with my new member class and other older members instead. It wasn't a big deal though. I had a great "little" but she wasn't my best friend although we were close. My best lifelong friends ended up being other girls in the chapter...and even women I've met as an alumna.

You have gotten some great advice on here. Just know that what you're feeling isn't uncommon. You will bond with other sisters

[Katmandu]

Originally Posted by ADPiEE

I think the big/little thing has become really overrated lately and I'm not sure why? I see it hyped up over social media. )

This.

Also what 33girl said. It is being made to carry more weight than it should and it's being sold as the ideal BFF/girlfriend/sisters4EVR experience.

The more you angst over it, the more likely it will be awkward. Reach out to her, but reach out to others as well. If she doesn't respond, it is on her. Someone else may end up being a mentoring older sister. If you really feel that she is dropping the ball, talk to your new member educator. The big may have things going on in her life that you know nothing about. Maybe she was forced to take a little. Maybe she is swamped academically. Maybe she is just an awkward bitch and you are better off without her influence. Just remember, it doesn't reflect on you or your worth as a sister or person.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by Katmandu

This.

Also what 33girl said. It is being made to carry more weight than it should and it's being sold as the ideal BFF/girlfriend/sisters4EVR experience.

The more you angst over it, the more likely it will be awkward. Reach out to her, but reach out to others as well. If she doesn't respond, it is on her. Someone else may end up being a mentoring older sister. If you really feel that she is dropping the ball, talk to your new member educator. The big may have things going on in her life that you know nothing about. Maybe she was forced to take a little. Maybe she is swamped academically. Maybe she is just an awkward bitch and you are better off without her influence. Just remember, it doesn't reflect on you or your worth as a sister or person.

Amen.

Trust me. This is not the only sister you were meant to be close to. Friendships are not made by declaration. Over the years, you may find some relationship that works for the two of you...maybe you won't. I guarantee you that all the happy Big/Lil pairs you see right now will not be so happy over the next 3 years. It's human nature. All of you will develop friendships with others in the chapter. SOME of those relationships will be closest with the big/Lil...not most. Have a little perspective and temper your expectations. It will make your experience better in that you won't waste your time trying to cultivate a relationship that won't bring any satisfaction to you. Reach for more compatible sisters. It's okay to do that. I promise it is. Good luck.