Fraternity Big/Little Brother Concern

[Kevin]

^I disagree with all of what 33girl said..

I was just coming back to add that y'all might also look at having a wider committee finally deliberate in secret over big/little selection so that you alone don't shoulder the blame and you can just sort of keep what happened a secret and say "oh well, that's what the committee decided...." Lots less hurt feelings that way.

Your pledge and that particular member will have plenty of opportunity to be friends. The big/little pairing is (for me) more about membership retention and culture building. Potential big could be a great guy, but if he sucks at follow-through and needs hand holding, he's likely to make a terrible big.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Kevin

I was just coming back to add that y'all might also look at having a wider committee finally deliberate in secret over big/little selection so that you alone don't shoulder the blame and you can just sort of keep what happened a secret and say "oh well, that's what the committee decided...." Lots less hurt feelings that way.

Um, yeah, this. I will agree with this. I can't imagine wanting to put yourself in a position where you don't have at least an assistant to make decisions on things like this.

So I'm guessing that you disagree with all the posts where we tell girls not to drop out/be sad/feel like freaks if they don't have the perfect relationship with their big? According to what you're saying, if a guy isn't a perfect big, the pledge will drop and Chaos And Mayhem Will Result.

We also have to remember this is one guy's opinion of one other guy. If the rest of the brotherhood is super on board with this new improved version of their chapter and thinks the upperclassman in question embodies everything that they currently detest, why haven't they kicked him out?

[Kevin]

Originally Posted by 33girl

So I'm guessing that you disagree with all the posts where we tell girls not to drop out/be sad/feel like freaks if they don't have the perfect relationship with their big? According to what you're saying, if a guy isn't a perfect big, the pledge will drop and Chaos And Mayhem Will Result.

He didn't say what that the 2nd choice big was dog **** either. Just that choice #1 isn't a unicorn pissing rainbows.

We also have to remember this is one guy's opinion of one other guy. If the rest of the brotherhood is super on board with this new improved version of their chapter and thinks the upperclassman in question embodies everything that they currently detest, why haven't they kicked him out?

The brotherhood apparently gave this responsibility to one man. Horrible idea. That's what he's working with though. He's asking for advice based on the facts as he tells them. I'm assuming those facts are true. And if they're not? Again, the chapter has entrusted this to just one person. Terrible idea, but that's what they did.