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Some moms, although well short of most, will go up and book a room for the entire week. I think the "support" in these cases is more for the moms than the DDs. The girls will get the support that they really need from their floor mates who are going through it with them. At this point, the recs are in, the resume is what it is, and all you can really do is pace the floor, drink heavily, and wait for nightly phone updates (all while projecting confidence without transferring your anxiety to her). Moms who are physically present and actually have the DDs stay with them at the hotel do a disservice for several reasons, including: 1) They inevitably want to rehash the day's events, invitations received (and not received), etc. beyond that point which is helpful (usually zero), and 2) The DD may feel like she's going through this alone, or just with mom, when in reality she can be drawing great strength from sharing the experience with the 1200 girls who will be her PanHellenic sisters for her college life.
Be prepared to address her concerns with facts that I'm sure you've already learned from GC, especially as it relates to the fact that she most likely will be released from one or more sororities in which she expressed an interest. This is the rule rather than the exception and it is in no way a reflection of her. If she goes in with an open mind, maximizes choices and realizes that whichever chapter she joins at Ole Miss is most likely one of the best chapters of that sorority in the country, she will do fine.
Bid day is a slightly different matter, and many parents will show up to watch the bid opening and "the run". Unless you have a well-founded fear that your DD is going to have a seriously adverse result, I would let her enjoy what will be a memory for a lifetime w/o her trying to accommodate your presence.
I would encourage you to go to the Texas A&M game on Oct 12. She will be thrilled to show you around the house, visit her sorority's tent at the grove, and meet her new sisters.
Just my two cents.
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