Having a hard time getting over one I got dropped from?

[DubaiSis]

Originally Posted by ngsu

I hate our hand signs and I hate a particular word in our name and want to cringe every time I say the full name of the sorority I'm in.

I don't think you're talking about my beloved Alpha Xi Delta, but our very unusual middle letter generally grabs women 1 of 2 ways - love it or hate it. But knowing what I do now about the meaning behind that particular letter, it kind of amazes me that no other sororities use it. I do have a guess about which sorority you're talking about (and by the way I have an idea about what school, so tread lightly). I love its colors and I'm sure that particular letter has very special and significant meaning. Besides, colors and letters make a ritual, not a sisterhood. You are foisting negative meaning and stigma where it doesn't exist to others.

My advice to you is suck it up. You are dealing with buyer's remorse and it will pass.

[thetalady]

Originally Posted by DubaiSis

I do have a guess about which sorority you're talking about (and by the way I have an idea about what school, so tread lightly). I love its colors and I'm sure that particular letter has very special and significant meaning. Besides, colors and letters make a ritual, not a sisterhood. You are foisting negative meaning and stigma where it doesn't exist to others.

That particular horse left the barn a while ago... the OP has made it quite obvious which sorority this is, too. How hurtful, if any of her sisters read her comments.

[ngsu]

Originally Posted by thetalady

That particular horse left the barn a while ago... the OP has made it quite obvious which sorority this is, too. How hurtful, if any of her sisters read her comments.

First, I already said I've transferred so nobody knows what school I go to or the sororities it offered. Second, even if I went to the same school, nobody still knows what sorority it is. And, I've never talked badly about my sorority. I'm mostly saying I'm having a hard time with the what ifs and a few general things in my sorority that have nothing to do with the girls themselves. So a) nobody knows who I am, what school I go to, or what sorority I'm in and b) I've said multiple times how the sorority has great girls. All I'm saying is that I'm trying to get advice to move on from the what ifs and could haves from the sorority I fell in love with during recruitment.

I've gotten some great advice on here and I really want to thank you all! It helps a lot.