Having a hard time getting over one I got dropped from?

[etadrisophila]

Grief about loss of the wished-for outcome is normal and expected.

However, if and when the grief becomes all-consuming, seek out professional counsel. If you are already at the all-consuming stage, it is time to make that call.

[Sciencewoman]

Originally Posted by etadrisophila

Grief about loss of the wished-for outcome is normal and expected.

However, if and when the grief becomes all-consuming, seek out professional counsel. If you are already at the all-consuming stage, it is time to make that call.

I agree with this advice. Given that ngsu has posted about past emotional concerns and troubles unrelated to recruitment, I am standing by my advice to please seek professional counseling on campus.

I think this goes beyond recruitment disappointment or "the grass is greener on the other side of the fence."

[ngsu]

Originally Posted by Sciencewoman

I agree with this advice. Given that ngsu has posted about past emotional concerns and troubles unrelated to recruitment, I am standing by my advice to please seek professional counseling on campus.

I think this goes beyond recruitment disappointment or "the grass is greener on the other side of the fence."

It's really not that bad. I'm not totally beyond myself over it, because like I said I am thankful that I got into a sorority and I love the girls that I've met and that's not what I have the problem with. The problem more is about being upset over not getting into the other one and wondering why and not knowing what I did that was wrong. It's just the what is and the could be's.

No, it wasn't my bottom choice. I actually had transferred this summer and I'm not even at that school anymore. It just wasn't one that I had fallen in love with during recruitment, and it didn't really start to grow on me until pref day. I'm loving the girls I meet, but it's just still hard to wonder why and try to get over it.

But thank you to those of you on here that have truly been sweet to me and not try to embarrass me or be rude towards me. I'm very appreciative of that.

[navane]

Originally Posted by Sciencewoman

I agree with this advice. Given that ngsu has posted about past emotional concerns and troubles unrelated to recruitment, I am standing by my advice to please seek professional counseling on campus.

I think this goes beyond recruitment disappointment or "the grass is greener on the other side of the fence."

I have to agree with my sister here. The OP has shared about her past troubles and may struggle with how to keep things in perspective.

Yes, it stings when something that was hoped for doesn't come to fruition. However, agonizing over it doesn't change what's happened. My sincere advice for you, ngsu, is to lick your wounds and then go make the very best of what your sorority has to offer. If after a few weeks you are still struggling with these thoughts, I do earnestly encourage you to seek out counseling at your campus health center. There's nothing wrong with chatting with a neutral third person who can help you sort out your feelings and put things into perspective.

Best wishes to you.