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Originally Posted by 33girl
She didn't say grades alone. She said grades and QR (questionable reputation). The second is what is sticking in my lil ol craw. As I told her in a PM, I find it amusing that she has the vapors over the suggestion of a cuss word but finds it perfectly acceptable that a girl's happiness in college and perhaps afterward can be scuttled by rumor and innuendo without the girl even being given a chance to prove herself.
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The effect - and even
perception -- of reputation has been discussed often on this forum -- it is not specific to any particular chapter's membership selection.
Alums of any chapter can send a negative recommendation -- this has been discussed here. PNMs are advised (here, elsewhere, and even by HS guidance counselors) to sanitize their social media for this reason.
So some truthful advice -- PNMs would be wise to be cautious about their behavior (including when they land on the Ole Miss campus), and also with their social media. Twenty minutes worth of a "chance" to prove oneself may not be enough to overcome an impression already formed (whether it is accurate or not, unfortunately).
If in doubt, err on the side of caution. If something on your social media can be misinterpreted in a negative way, remove it. Crazy funny party pics may not favorably impress actives and alums.
Neither will tweeting "STFU."