Getting your last choice

[azureblue]

Originally Posted by FSUZeta

Your chapter is so much more than itself. It is just a cog in the wheel of your national organization. I can honestly say that my alumna years have been even better than my collegiate ones.

^ I agree with this 100%^ It is so hard for collegians to see the big picture sometimes.

[hithere112]

first of all thank you to everyone to replying and giving such great advice. In reality this group has everything I was looking for and I'm becoming more and more excited each day. Can't wait for game days and things like scandals! To Kevin, sorry if my post offended you. I WILL be more careful about oversharing in the future. The process is just really fresh right now. Again thank you so much everyone, I won't give up and each kind word inspires me!

[Kevin]

Originally Posted by hithere112

To Kevin, sorry if my post offended you!

No problems whatsoever. I don't know of a single NPC group at OU where you're going to have a sub par experience. Yes, some of the houses are considered more selective. I have a cousin who is (if memory serves) a member of Gamma Phi Beta up there and my sister in law who graduated a few years ago is a Chi Omega.

Just be positive.

[WhiteDaisy128]

I agree with the others who say to took at the national organization. Take my organization for example...are there campuses where we struggle? Sure, but there are many more campuses where DG is top of the top. And there are some places where we are cozy in the middle. However, as an international organization, we are awesome (as are ALL NPC organizations!)! You'll spend 4(ish) years on campus with your chapter, and then 60+ years enjoying membership at a much larger level. In those years, you'll interact with women from chapters across the nation and beyond...the ties that bind you in friendship and sisterhood transcend the memories of struggling chapters and local stigmas.

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by WhiteDaisy128

I agree with the others who say to took at the national organization. Take my organization for example...are there campuses where we struggle? Sure, but there are many more campuses where DG is top of the top. And there are some places where we are cozy in the middle. However, as an international organization, we are awesome (as are ALL NPC organizations!)! You'll spend 4(ish) years on campus with your chapter, and then 60+ years enjoying membership at a much larger level. In those years, you'll interact with women from chapters across the nation and beyond...the ties that bind you in friendship and sisterhood transcend the memories of struggling chapters and local stigmas.

So true.

And after college, you won't only find yourself meeting and bonding with more of your own sisters, but also sisters of other NPCs. I get stupidly excited when I see a girl at the grocery store with a Tri Delta shirt on, or when I see a Phi Mu totebag being carried around at the airport, or when I'm driving behind a car with an Alpha Xi Delta license plate frame. I've met, worked with, and socialized with members of about half of the NPC sororities since I graduated, and every experience has been beyond wonderful.

Every sorority has something great to offer, and you have something great to offer the chapter that you've joined. As others have said, they're nice, and that's half the battle right there. I come from a chapter that struggled (all of the chapters on my small campus did). And when we were down to 9 members, most of us were holding at least 3 positions a piece. We had to work overtime on many things like recruitment, and the annual pageant we hosted, and trying to plan philanthropic and social events. We had days when we were frustrated, and tired, and we just wanted a break. At times, we even got tired of each other. But all the fun we had in between more than made up for all of those hard days. And I wouldn't trade my experience for anything.

It's true what they say: you really do get out of it what you put into it.

[Katmandu]

First, you didn't come across as whining, entitled or snobby to me. You came across as drained, confused and hurt. Allow yourself to feel those things, (away from your new sisters) then throw yourself into this new experience and see where it takes you. It's not easy to be a member of the smallest chapter on a big campus, but every chapter has issues, some of which are a lot uglier than size. They just aren't readily visible.

Nice, friendly and enthusiastic about wanting you as a sister goes along way in this world. Think of your membership as a lifetime experience. Read up on your chapter history and learn about your founders, ideals and creeds. if you want leadership experience, and want to make a difference, you are in exactly the right place. Wishing you all the best. Let us know how it is going.