Getting your last choice

[DubaiSis]

One of the great things about RFM is it allows virtually every girl to find a home and with enough girls brave enough to take the risk on "that" chapter, "that" chapter will over the course of just a few years become one of the chapters right in the mix. There are plenty of schools where there really isn't a clearly delineated bottom chapter, and yours can absolutely do the same thing because of girls like you who sucked it up about being disappointed and made the best of it. If your chapter isn't filled with entitled hos, then you have a good start.

You can improve your chapter standing by being visible in the best possible sense. Wear your letters with pride and always look your best. Be involved, and bring sisters along. Have fun in public. If you are in a situation where you will be doing ongoing COB (pledging new members outside of fall formal rush), go out of your way to make friends with all kinds of women on campus, and that means Greek-affiliated and independent. That girl in the "it" chapter may have a friend who didn't pledge. She knows her chapter doesn't have room for her, but "that" chapter has some really nice girls (you), and she might feel comfortable recommending you as an alternative. Because hell to the no about recommending her to those byatches at the "it #2" chapter.

Would it be easier to be in the chapter who has no issues with their social status or rush outside of formal? Yes. But they have their own issues to deal with, so don't spend too much time thinking how much greener the grass is.

[irishpipes]

Originally Posted by DubaiSis

If your chapter isn't filled with entitled hos, then you have a good start.

Hilarious

[honorgal]

I love this thread and all the wise and wonderful perspective it contains.

[pearlalum]

Preach it DubaiSis!

Originally Posted by DubaiSis

One of the great things about RFM is it allows virtually every girl to find a home and with enough girls brave enough to take the risk on "that" chapter, "that" chapter will over the course of just a few years become one of the chapters right in the mix. There are plenty of schools where there really isn't a clearly delineated bottom chapter, and yours can absolutely do the same thing because of girls like you who sucked it up about being disappointed and made the best of it. If your chapter isn't filled with entitled hos, then you have a good start.

You can improve your chapter standing by being visible in the best possible sense. Wear your letters with pride and always look your best. Be involved, and bring sisters along. Have fun in public. If you are in a situation where you will be doing ongoing COB (pledging new members outside of fall formal rush), go out of your way to make friends with all kinds of women on campus, and that means Greek-affiliated and independent. That girl in the "it" chapter may have a friend who didn't pledge. She knows her chapter doesn't have room for her, but "that" chapter has some really nice girls (you), and she might feel comfortable recommending you as an alternative. Because hell to the no about recommending her to those byatches at the "it #2" chapter.

Would it be easier to be in the chapter who has no issues with their social status or rush outside of formal? Yes. But they have their own issues to deal with, so don't spend too much time thinking how much greener the grass is.

[barbino]

Every one of us on this board can tell you stories about being "that girl' in "that chapter." I remember a girl who took a bid to a particular chapter and was loved all over campus for being Panhellenic president. I got to know her well; she was a great example of the type of girl who would have added much to any chapter that she was in. She chose the chapter no one else wanted, and improved it much. Importantly, not just her own sisters but girls in other chapters got to see that it was OK to see things differently.

I remember a girl who supposedly cried all through her pledge night because she got her second choice. She stayed in her chapter though, and was one of "those girls" -- the ones that somehow manage to do it all always.

My own best friend did not get her first choice. She was the type of girl that most chapters would want; but she stayed and enjoyed the full sorority experience. Congrats on your bid! You went there for preference night and ranked them, so you must have seen some potential for fitting in there. Enjoy your new chapter with girls that will love you for the person that you are.

[ChioLu]

Originally Posted by DubaiSis

One of the great things about RFM is it allows virtually every girl to find a home and with enough girls brave enough to take the risk on "that" chapter, "that" chapter will over the course of just a few years become one of the chapters right in the mix. There are plenty of schools where there really isn't a clearly delineated bottom chapter, and yours can absolutely do the same thing because of girls like you who sucked it up about being disappointed and made the best of it. If your chapter isn't filled with entitled hos, then you have a good start.

You can improve your chapter standing by being visible in the best possible sense. Wear your letters with pride and always look your best. Be involved, and bring sisters along. Have fun in public. If you are in a situation where you will be doing ongoing COB (pledging new members outside of fall formal rush), go out of your way to make friends with all kinds of women on campus, and that means Greek-affiliated and independent. That girl in the "it" chapter may have a friend who didn't pledge. She knows her chapter doesn't have room for her, but "that" chapter has some really nice girls (you), and she might feel comfortable recommending you as an alternative. Because hell to the no about recommending her to those byatches at the "it #2" chapter.

Would it be easier to be in the chapter who has no issues with their social status or rush outside of formal? Yes. But they have their own issues to deal with, so don't spend too much time thinking how much greener the grass is.

AMEN!