University of Mississippi - Ole Miss Panhellenic Sorority Recruitment 2013

[DubaiSis]

Oh, Old Row, we might be holier than thou NOW, but our parties were every bit as bad, stupid, dangerous, etc., as yours are now. Actually, I think generally kids are savvier about what's what than they were back in my day, the 80's. The problem for so many parents is, yes, I might have done several seriously stupid and health threatening things as a teenager, but my kids would NEVER do any of that. Sleep with a boy she doesn't know? Get so drunk she passes out in a fraternity house? My snowflake? NEVER! Which is to say the exact same thing our parents were saying 30 and 40 years ago.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Hearttoheart

IAs far as staying with girls she met on Facebook, essentially, that is exactly how she found her roommate that she will be living with next year. (Ole Miss's housing website links to Facebook so the kids can check out potential roommates). I am assuming her roommate is okay.... (she looks adorable on Facebook)

Living in dorm with RAs on campus to diffuse any issues =/= going to a party weekend with people you don't personally know.

And if this whole scenario is making a college age student talk like she's 40, that's something to think about.

[Titchou]

Originally Posted by DubaiSis

Oh, Old Row, we might be holier than thou NOW, but our parties were every bit as bad, stupid, dangerous, etc., as yours are now. Actually, I think generally kids are savvier about what's what than they were back in my day, the 80's. The problem for so many parents is, yes, I might have done several seriously stupid and health threatening things as a teenager, but my kids would NEVER do any of that. Sleep with a boy she doesn't know? Get so drunk she passes out in a fraternity house? My snowflake? NEVER! Which is to say the exact same thing our parents were saying 30 and 40 years ago.

Yeah but the guys didn't have roofies back then....I know what you're saying. I'm a 60's flower child and yes we did stuff our parents would have cringed at...and that was with a 21 year old drinking age, campus curfew, and very few people with cars or apartments. Certainly no women students had apartments. it wasn't allowed. But I can honestly tell you - it's different today. They all live with their boyfriends, have freerun of the place at 18 - or younger. Toto, we are not in Kansas any more.

[Old_Row]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Living in dorm with RAs on campus to diffuse any issues =/= going to a party weekend with people you don't personally know.

And if this whole scenario is making a college age student talk like she's 40, that's something to think about.

Haha I know right? Good thing I already got some pearls!!

There are too many things at work that can separate a baby girl from the herd you know? Without someone with you that really cares about you stuff can get very very ugly fast and a bad recruitment is going to end up as the least of your worries you know?

[KKGAlumDGMom]

Originally Posted by DubaiSis

Oh, Old Row, we might be holier than thou NOW, but our parties were every bit as bad, stupid, dangerous, etc., as yours are now. Actually, I think generally kids are savvier about what's what than they were back in my day, the 80's. The problem for so many parents is, yes, I might have done several seriously stupid and health threatening things as a teenager, but my kids would NEVER do any of that. Sleep with a boy she doesn't know? Get so drunk she passes out in a fraternity house? My snowflake? NEVER! Which is to say the exact same thing our parents were saying 30 and 40 years ago.

I'm just thankful the legal drinking age was 18 in the state I went to college.

[ADPiEE]

Originally Posted by Old_Row

I'm still in school. I have been to a lot of parties and obviously I don't have any 18 year olds haha. You have already let her travel far away to party with strangers so however that is going to affect her recruitment is done. This is for any future mommas coming here. I just want to tell you that from a kid's perspective this is a very bad idea. I think parties are probably pretty different than they were in your day and situations can be very bad for someone who is still in high school, far away from home and with people who aren't necessarily going to be there and interested enough or sober enough to always look out for your little girl especially since they don't know her. Bad stuff happens all the time. It's not a good idea.

In our day, people didn't have cell phones with them at all times documenting bad decisions and then uploading it to social media to be a permanent record for all to see

[Sciencewoman]

Originally Posted by Titchou

Yeah but the guys didn't have roofies back then....I know what you're saying. I'm a 60's flower child and yes we did stuff our parents would have cringed at...and that was with a 21 year old drinking age, campus curfew, and very few people with cars or apartments. Certainly no women students had apartments. it wasn't allowed. But I can honestly tell you - it's different today. They all live with their boyfriends, have freerun of the place at 18 - or younger. Toto, we are not in Kansas any more.

They had roofies in the 80s. One of my sorority sisters was a victim...and the perpetrator was one of our fraternity busboys. She and her family didn't press charges, but he was persona non grata in the Greek community because the word got around.

[Titchou]

Glad I grew up with just drugs, sex and rock 'n roll...

[IndianaSigKap]

Originally Posted by ADPiEE

In our day, people didn't have cell phones with them at all times documenting bad decisions and then uploading it to social media to be a permanent record for all to see

Thank goodness!! We were laughing about this a few weeks ago when a group of us met up for a weekend in Bloomington! We cringed at the thought of some of our escapades going viral!

[HQWest]

The thing is - going to these prerecruitment parties - no one wants to be THAT girl before you even walk in the door.

[DubaiSis]

My chapter was pretty prudish under anyone's definition, and we wouldn't have passed a Facebook test.

[misscherrypie]

*Lane swerve* Our chapter is so prudish that we would pass a Facebook test. Every single one of us. I think that the most out of line thing that any of us has was someone taking a picture of us toasting with water in glasses at a restaurant and one of the glasses had a snapped off half open rose bloom in it. Such is our humor.

I like boring. :-)

*back into lane*

[AZTheta]

Originally Posted by MaryPoppins

Hilly Holbrook, the main antagonist and the town's racist, snooty ringleader from The Help. Hilly could get very testy and did things to others most normal moral people would deeply regret.

oh. OH! Ugh. Thanks, MP, for the reference. I had blocked it out of my mind.

I'm with Titchou, very grateful that my escapades weren't captured for posterity in perpetuity.

Originally Posted by misscherrypie

*Lane swerve* Our chapter is so prudish that we would pass a Facebook test. Every single one of us. I think that the most out of line thing that any of us has was someone taking a picture of us toasting with water in glasses at a restaurant and one of the glasses had a snapped off half open rose bloom in it. Such is our humor.

I like boring. :-)

*back into lane*

[TriDeltaSallie]

Originally Posted by Titchou

But I can honestly tell you - it's different today. They all live with their boyfriends, have freerun of the place at 18 - or younger. Toto, we are not in Kansas any more.

It is completely different. And I only graduated in 1990. Seriously, people. This was not the norm even twenty years ago. I cannot think of one sister who acted like this in a chapter of 100 women. Did girls sleep with their boyfriends? Yes. Did girls sleep with guys they liked? Yes. But this is something completely different.