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It most definitely wouldn't be HAVE to. They don't have to do anything on your behalf. But they MIGHT be able to give you a spot without having to go through the motions of rush. But you definitely don't want to even ask for this unless you are 100% committed to this chapter.
That "not fitting in like the other girls" thing is mostly fiction. I heard an interview with Paul McCartney once where he was saying he was going to quit the Beatles because the other 3 got along so much better with each other than with him. When asked, all 4 of them felt the same way about themselves. Other people's friendships always seem so much more REAL than our own.
Here's a suggestion. It sounds like you are still friendly with your Big. Have a big talk with her about all of this. If she shuts you down again, tell her she's shutting you down. A lot of people will just deflect an uncomfortable conversation, but if she really wants you back, you have to work out some of these issues. It's hard to tell what part of this was you being overwhelmed by freshman life with inflated expectations of sorority life and how much of it was them actually not holding up their part of the bargain. But if you can't talk to anybody there, then that is a problem.
And for collegiate chapters out there, there's a sweet spot of not bumping so much that nobody has a decent conversation, and bumping so seldom that you pledge a girl who suddenly realizes she doesn't know anyone in the chapter and vice versa.
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