Rerushing again (Fall '10)

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[ree-Xi]

Originally Posted by Atrainer89

Not sure if any of you have kept up with me, but I am rushing in the Fall at a new school. I will be considered a transfer. Hopefully my story will be able to encourage people who are second guessing on re-rushing. My parents and brother aren't exactly thrilled with me rushing, but I am doing what will make me happy Then my cousin is a legacy of XYZ. Though I'm not positive if her sorority is rushing informally. I've tried emailing that sorority to see if they are as well and haven't heard back from them yet.

Is she a member of a sorority, or just a legacy?

If she is a member of a sorority, you may or may not be a legacy (all chapters vary, though I'm not sure if I have ever read of cousins of a member counting as a legacy).

If she is simply a legacy of a chapter, and not a member, this has no bearing on your recruitment, other than perhaps helping secure a rec from the relation by which she is a legacy.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by Atrainer89

She's graduated from that school. I am not sure how my school looks at legacies. I know very little about the greek life since I just transferred.

Schools do not have legacy policies. GLOs (may) have legacy policies, which vary from organization to organization.

Are you maybe confusing legacy with alumna? Your cousin is an alumna. Younger women within a prescribed degree of kinship to her -- like sister, daughter or granddaughter -- might be legacies.

[Gusteau]

Each organization does lagacies differently, it doesn't go by school. Ask you're cousin - she would know.

Sidenote: I was told that one NPC considers 1st cousins legacies, but I'm not sure if that's true.

ETA: MC Jinx!

[Barbie's_Rush]

Originally Posted by Atrainer89

I'm rushing in the Spring, I transferred so I'll most likely be here an extra year. And I'll be a junior. My cousin was in AXO so she said I had a legacy. But I assume it depends on the chapters at my school.

Originally Posted by Atrainer89

Not sure if any of you have kept up with me, but I am rushing in the Fall at a new school. I will be considered a transfer. Hopefully my story will be able to encourage people who are second guessing on re-rushing. My parents and brother aren't exactly thrilled with me rushing, but I am doing what will make me happy Then my cousin is a legacy of XYZ. Though I'm not positive if her sorority is rushing informally. I've tried emailing that sorority to see if they are as well and haven't heard back from them yet.

Alpha Chi Omega Legacy Policy
A legacy is a potential member whose relative is also a sorority or fraternity member. If you’re an Alpha Chi Omega legacy, that means your sister, mother, grandmother or great-grandmother is an Alpha Chi Omega member.

http://www.alphachiomega.org/index.aspx?id=76

[thetygerlily]

Originally Posted by MysticCat

Schools do not have legacy policies. GLOs (may) have legacy policies, which vary from organization to organization.

Originally Posted by Gusteau

Each organization does lagacies differently, it doesn't go by school.

Yes, you are both technically correct... but the way a legacy is viewed does differ by school. At some schools being a legacy gives you a head start- a way to differentiate you from the crowd. At others, legacies are not very common and are more of a novelty. Regardless, having general knowledge of the Greek system is usually a good thing. Although it may not affect how the groups view you, it can help you better understand the recruitment process.

Kappa's legacy is the same as AXO's: sister, mother, grandmother, great-grandmother.

Atrainer- you were attempting recruitment as a commuter before, right? Good luck at the new school!

[ree-Xi]

Originally Posted by Atrainer89

Yeah, I'm even looking into non-panhel sororities my school. I will name the three I am looking into at the moment as Girl Scout cookies

Peanut-butter Pattie
Thin Mints
Caramel Delites (known as Samoas in other places)

I am being extremely open-minded about informal recruitment.

Also, my cousin's sorority at my school has an ex-roomie who I didn't get along with and still really don't. Any advice how to deal with that? I am afraid she might try to get the girls to turn on me (since we all know how girls can be at times). I figure I'd just try to ignore her, but be polite to her if I do see her.

Define "didn't get along". If you make it an issue, and talk about it, then other people will think it's a big deal. When I rushed, I thought that a disagreement I had had in high school over a boy with an active sister would cause them to cut me. She ended up being the person who delivered my bid card (I COBed), and it turned out that she didn't even remember the incident.

Originally Posted by Atrainer89

My cousin said I'd technically be a legacy. But I understand it could be different at every chapter too.

What does "technically" mean in your circumstance? I would check the national web site of the particular sorority to see what they count as legacy status.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by Atrainer89

we were talking one day and she said I'd have a legacy..This girl just got everyone into it, even my other roommates who I hadn't had a problem with so its more then just one incident..but I am still trying to keep an open mind and everything.

um, what?

One person cannot "get" someone into a sorority. These girls were probably girls that other sisters liked as well.

I just don't want you to think "oh my cousin says I'll be treated like a legacy so I'll have no problem getting a bid there."

[Gusteau]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

I just don't want you to think "oh my cousin says I'll be treated like a legacy so I'll have no problem getting a bid there."

Especially since her cousin graduated and will probably have NOTHING to do with MS...

Atrainer89, I would advise you to read more and post less.

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

um, what?

One person cannot "get" someone into a sorority. These girls were probably girls that other sisters liked as well.

I just don't want you to think "oh my cousin says I'll be treated like a legacy so I'll have no problem getting a bid there."

I think the girl she's talking about is the ex-roomie. I think it's two completely different thoughts mushed together. Cousin said she'd be a legacy - then talking about ex-roomie.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by Gusteau

Atrainer89, I would advise you to read more and post less.

This.

But she's been given that advice already, and so far . . . .

[Barbie's_Rush]

Originally Posted by Atrainer89

My cousin said I'd technically be a legacy. But I understand it could be different at every chapter too.

NO YOU WON'T. Legacy policies DO NOT vary from chapter to chapter. They are NATIONAL/INTERNATIONAL policies. The Alpha Chi Omega chapter at Virginia Tech has the exact same legacy policy as every other Alpha Chi Omega chapter. Either your cousin is wrong or you are misunderstanding her. In any case, if you go into recruitment with this attitude you will be setting yourself up for the same disappointing recruitment you had at your previous school. Not that you're not already doing a great job of that here. How many flipping times can people warn you about what you're doing here?

[ucsbgirl]

I apologize for the misunderstanding.

[Barbie's_Rush]

Originally Posted by ucsbgirl

You're not a legacy, but your cousin can still write you a rec (the cousin graduated, right?) and since she knows you well (assuming) she'll be able to write lots of nice things about your best qualities.

Awesome. Yet another pnm who hasn't even gone through recruitment yet who feels compelled to dispense advice and opinions on sorority policies and recruitment.

[ucsbgirl]

Sorry. You are right, and I do know nothing about the situation.