How to Ask If Someone is Greek

[thetalady]

Originally Posted by ghosttowns

Hi all! I apologize if this has been posted before. I did some searching but I didn't look THAT hard. If someone could help me out I would greatly appreciate it!!
My question is: how do you ask someone if they were in a Greek organization, for the purpose of recommendations? A distant family friend and two of her daughters went to a particular SEC school. My mom doesn't think they were in a sorority but she is not 100 percent sure. This distant friend is visiting in the near future and I know my mom will see her, but I am not sure if I will. Is it ok for my mom to ask if she or her daughters were in a sorority and perhaps see if she could fill out a rec form? Or should I call/text/email or you have it?


Thanks!

You should really be doing the asking, not your mom. If this is important to you, then find the recs yourself.

You don't have to ask "Are you in a sorority?" You can (and I think you should) say something like "I am going to be going through recruitment at State University in the fall. I am really excited about possibly joining a sorority. I am looking for women who ARE in sororities who might be willing to write a letter of recommendation for me..."

If they are sorority members, they should pick up what you are asking and offer to help you, if they are comfortable writing a rec. And yes, the term is women who "ARE" in sororities, not "were". Our membership does not end with graduation.

Good luck!