Suggesting Recruitment to a PNM

[irishpipes]

I think you're only that crazy sorority lady if you are 50 years old and wearing letter shirts and a sticker on your windshield. I would definitely bring it up. It doesn't have to be a hard sell - just a little helpful information about how your experience helped you. If she shows interest you can answer her questions in an environment where she feels comfortable. I know a lot of PNMs have "stupid" questions that they don't want to ask of their peers because they think they should know already. (For example, a PNM I am helping asked me if she should register for all 3 recruitments. I was like, huh? And she pulled up the Greek Life website on her phone and read off that there are 3 sorority councils at her school - NPC, NPHC, and MCGC. She has no idea what those things are, so by how it was worded she thought she had to register for all 3.)

[adpiucf]

I would bring it up organically. Say, "SISTER and I were talking about how similiar your school is to mine." Share an example and then launch into how you found your home away from home in Greek Life, etc., and then tell her about your experience and tell her that if she's interested in sorority life, you think she would be a great candidate and you'd be glad to help her prepare. After that, she can decide.

[exlurker]

Originally Posted by adpiucf

I would bring it up organically. Say, "SISTER and I were talking about how similiar your school is to mine." Share an example and then launch into how you found your home away from home in Greek Life, etc., and then tell her about your experience and tell her that if she's interested in sorority life, you think she would be a great candidate and you'd be glad to help her prepare. After that, she can decide.

Great suggestion from adpiucf. The only thing I would add is this: be careful about wording any "great candidate" comment. Alas, it's sometimes easy for a PNM to misinterpret and think/feel that "you" (generic) are saying she will get a bid to her dream sorority or to your sorority. We know we can't be sure of that. Being encouraging and helpful is the goal, I think -- not leaving her thinking anything's a sure thing.

Best wishes to her and to you.

[AGDLynn]

Originally Posted by irishpipes

I think you're only that crazy sorority lady if you are 50 years old and wearing letter shirts and a sticker on your windshield. )

AHEMMM!!!

Crazy sorority lady here!

[AnchorAlumna]

Originally Posted by irishpipes

I think you're only that crazy sorority lady if you are 50 years old and wearing letter shirts and a sticker on your windshield.

Then it's OK if you're 60 with the shirt and the sticker?
All riiiiiight!!

It might actually carry more weight from you, since you're the cool aunt and mom is just....mom.