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Originally posted by exquizit
I'm a little ashamed to say My sister also falls in here somewhere. We're like night and day, and she's always trying to find some sort of flaw in people. I can't stand people like that (but If someone else says something about her I'm ready to fight ) [/B]
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OH NO YOU DIDN'T EXQUIZIT!!!!
THIS, by far, is like one of the BEST topics that I've seen on GC in a while.
I'm glad that SOMEONE feels the same as I do about their sister. But get this. For ME, it's not just ONE sister, but TWO!!! Yes, I don't particularly like EITHER one of my sisters because of their attitudes towards me...and LIFE in general. Do I LOVE them? YES, YES, YES!!!! And if they are in any dire situation, I'll be there for them. BUUUTTT... we're like (as you said) DAY AND NIGHT. I have one sister (my oldest by 2 years) who has this chip on her shoulder. She's the same as your sister when it comes to trying to find some sort of flaw in people...particularly ME. And she thinks that the world OWES her something. It's like she has something against me for having an education (I'm the ONLY one in my family who has obtained a B.S., much less a M.A.); a great job (She's NEVER really worked. She's always been a stay-at-home mother); and a good marriage (I'm also the only one who has always gotten along with her husband. We WORK together in this thing called "marriage"). On top of that, I feel that she's kinda jealous of my relationship with our mother. You see, my oldest sister was always closer to my father, but I was always closer to my mother. She also seems to be jealous and intimidated by my independence and willingness (with God's help) to go out and get the things that I want and need in life.
GGGUUURRRLLL, I won't EVEN tell you the issues between me and my youngest sister (she's 8 years younger). THAT'S an entirely different post all together.
I've gotten to the point where I DREAD going home for the holidays or something. And I tell ya, if it were not for my mother, nieces, and nephew, I wouldn't go at all. It's sad to say, but true. And it has absolutely NOTHING to do with me thinking that I'm better or anything like that. I just feel totally UNWANTED and UNWELCOMED. Plus, I don't feel like all of that DRAMA, know what I'm talking about?
But guess what? I've decided that there are even times when we have to cut others loose, YES, EVEN OUR FAMILY, in order to keep our sanity and in order to feel good about ourselves. Believe it or not, there was a time when I actually felt GUILTY about how God has blessed me with a good job, a good, husband, and a good education. And there was even a time when I would ask God (because my sisters would say this to me) if I actually acted or thought that I was better? But I realized, over the years, that it's not ME, but THEM. It's THEIR issues that they're dealing with. You just don't know how I've struggled with this over the years. But God let me know that it was okay to be successful (IN HIM). He EVEN let me know that it was okay not to LIKE my family as long as I don't harbour any HATE or CONTEMPT in my heart for them. And I know in my HEART, that it was GOD who moved me, my husband, and children AWAY from that situation. I believe that He saw that it was not good for me. Hey, if you noticed, He even moved me far enough that I can't get home TOO often, but close enough that I may be able to get home kinda quickly if I needed to (I live in Richmond, but I'm originally from Florence, S.C.). Now my BROTHER and I get along just fine...I'm happy to say.
Yeah, Gurl, I'm REALLY feeling you on THIS particular post!!
P.S. Sorry the post was so long. But like I said, I'm REALLY feeling you on this one.
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