I love ya but, I don't have to like ya
 

Hey you guys, It's been a while since I've started a thread but I've been doing alot of family bonding this summer. I've come to the conclusion that I love some family members but I simply don't like them............:o :eek:


Are there any family members (married into the family or not) that you wouldn't have anything to do with if they weren't family?


Mine is my cousin's wife. That heffa gets on my last nerve! She's a busy body who loves to create confusion. She makes my cousin happy and we love him so we except her :rolleyes:

I'm a little ashamed to say My sister also falls in here somewhere. We're like night and day, and she's always trying to find some sort of flaw in people. I can't stand people like that (but If someone else says something about her I'm ready to fight:confused: )

One of my cousin's is just mean. You can try to be nice to her but she's just mean. That may explain why she's always single and still lives at home and she passed 35 a few years ago. She can't keep a job or a healthy relationship with anyone who isn't related to her because she can be just downright nasty. It's a shame to say, but when I know she's coming over, I make myself extremely scarce.

One of my sister's gets on my last good gosh darn nerve. We are so much alike that we can't stand one another. The one thing that makes me sick is that she doesn't listen to a word anyone is saying and then tries to preach to people. I just can't take in big doses. A few hours every couple of weeks is fine by me.

I love both of these people to death, but I don't like them too much.

Re: I love ya but, I don't have to like ya
 

OH NO YOU DIDN'T EXQUIZIT!!!! :D :D THIS, by far, is like one of the BEST topics that I've seen on GC in a while.

I'm glad that SOMEONE feels the same as I do about their sister. But get this. For ME, it's not just ONE sister, but TWO!!! Yes, I don't particularly like EITHER one of my sisters because of their attitudes towards me...and LIFE in general. Do I LOVE them? YES, YES, YES!!!! And if they are in any dire situation, I'll be there for them. BUUUTTT... we're like (as you said) DAY AND NIGHT. I have one sister (my oldest by 2 years) who has this chip on her shoulder. She's the same as your sister when it comes to trying to find some sort of flaw in people...particularly ME. And she thinks that the world OWES her something. It's like she has something against me for having an education (I'm the ONLY one in my family who has obtained a B.S., much less a M.A.); a great job (She's NEVER really worked. She's always been a stay-at-home mother); and a good marriage (I'm also the only one who has always gotten along with her husband. We WORK together in this thing called "marriage"). On top of that, I feel that she's kinda jealous of my relationship with our mother. You see, my oldest sister was always closer to my father, but I was always closer to my mother. She also seems to be jealous and intimidated by my independence and willingness (with God's help) to go out and get the things that I want and need in life.

GGGUUURRRLLL, I won't EVEN tell you the issues between me and my youngest sister (she's 8 years younger). THAT'S an entirely different post all together. :D

I've gotten to the point where I DREAD going home for the holidays or something. And I tell ya, if it were not for my mother, nieces, and nephew, I wouldn't go at all. It's sad to say, but true. And it has absolutely NOTHING to do with me thinking that I'm better or anything like that. I just feel totally UNWANTED and UNWELCOMED. Plus, I don't feel like all of that DRAMA, know what I'm talking about?

But guess what? I've decided that there are even times when we have to cut others loose, YES, EVEN OUR FAMILY, in order to keep our sanity and in order to feel good about ourselves. Believe it or not, there was a time when I actually felt GUILTY about how God has blessed me with a good job, a good, husband, and a good education. And there was even a time when I would ask God (because my sisters would say this to me) if I actually acted or thought that I was better? But I realized, over the years, that it's not ME, but THEM. It's THEIR issues that they're dealing with. You just don't know how I've struggled with this over the years. But God let me know that it was okay to be successful (IN HIM). He EVEN let me know that it was okay not to LIKE my family as long as I don't harbour any HATE or CONTEMPT in my heart for them. And I know in my HEART, that it was GOD who moved me, my husband, and children AWAY from that situation. I believe that He saw that it was not good for me. Hey, if you noticed, He even moved me far enough that I can't get home TOO often, but close enough that I may be able to get home kinda quickly if I needed to (I live in Richmond, but I'm originally from Florence, S.C.). Now my BROTHER and I get along just fine...I'm happy to say. :D
Yeah, Gurl, I'm REALLY feeling you on THIS particular post!! ;)

P.S. Sorry the post was so long. But like I said, I'm REALLY feeling you on this one. :D

I hate to say it, but my oldest brother gets on my LAST nerve. :mad:

My father had 5 children from a previous marriage, but I am his and my mother's only child. I guess I never thought about my daddy being the only link I really had to my half brothers and sisters because we were all relatively close. My daddy passed in '98, and since then, only 2 of my siblings (my 2 sisters) have made an attempt to stay in contact with me. It's kinda hard since they are all MUCH older, so I understand BUT....

None of my brothers acknowledged my birthdays, my graduation, etc. But my oldest brother always wants to come around and play that big brother role, and I CAN'T STAND IT. If you didn't care enough to remember HOW OLD I AM, I really need for you not to be in my business! I live in Texas and he lives in Maryland... ironically he came through here on Friday night for some kind of convention - and was trying to be all up in my stuff talking about he wanted to meet my boyfriend and what he had to tell him and whatnot.. JIGGA PUHLEEZE!! I can't stand when he plays that role for show.. maybe it makes him feel like a good brother but it just makes me angry.

::Having vented, SweetestDiva exhales, thanks her girl Exquizit for starting this topic, and walks away:: :cool:

What about a close friend?
 

I get along well with all of my family members, but how about having this problem with a close friend? One of my closest friends (we've known each other since freshman year of highschool (1984)) gets on my nerves BIG TYME!!!!

I love "J" to death, but DAYUM, that girl can be annoying! She has been known to worry me so much on occassion, that I have actually called her by my seven year old's name. Now, that's a damn shame whether she realizes it or not.


"J" swears that she's the nicest person on earth. But if you're really nice, do you have to be the one tooting your own horn all the time, talking about "I'm nice, I'm the nice one?"

There are three of us that have hung together since we were 13 or 14. "J" is known as the nice one; "Peaches" is known as the mellow one; while I'm known as the mean one. That's cool with me, but dayum, "J" uses NICE as an excuse for everything.

Some idiot is stalking her, and I told "J" that she needs to tell this "rapscallion" to leave her the hell alone. I told her to block this jigga's e mail account, and stop answering his phonecalls. She responds, "I'm trying, but it's hard for me, I'm the nice one."

If she finds it in herself to tell somebody off, she has to be like, "Girl, you know that was hard for me, because I'm the nice one."


If I have to listen to her refrain of "I'm the nice one" one more time, I'm gonna be ten seconds off her azz.

I have to use large quantities of self control at times not to tell her that sometimes she's being nice, other times, she's just being stupid! There's a thin line, and sometimes, she lands on the wrong side of it.

Thanks you for this topic
 

For many years I have tried to deny the fact that I just don't like my sister. I have felt guilty because after all she is my sister. But after seeing that I am not alone, I can release my guilt. I DO NOT LIKE MY SISTER! Whew, what a relief. :D

CTHU!!!
 

I guess we all just needed a little therapy.:p ;) :D

AAAAMMMMEEEENNNN, Exquizit, AAAAMMMMEEEENNNN!!!!!! :) :)

And Ladygreek, doesn't it feel GOOD to actually be able to ADMIT it, VERBALIZE it, and BE OKAY with it??? I know that I did. It was like a big load was taken off of my shoulders. Besides, what's the use in denying it or avoiding it anyway? God already knows EVERYTHING about us and ALL of our thoughts and feelings, right? So as far as this topic goes, one's best bet in keeping his/her sanity and being content and at peace is...SELF PRESERVATION and being TRUE to oneself.

KEEP YOUR HEADS UP, SISTERFRIENDS AND BROTHERFRIENDS!!! And ALWAYS remember these three words whenever you think about your situations or any issues you may have: YOU'RE NOT ALONE!!! ;) ;) ;)

I CAN FINALLY GET THIS OFF MY CHEST!!
 

My aunt and cousin are 2 peas in a pod (and they are Soror's, no less). Let's start with my aunt...she ALWAYS wants to run the show. She'll be all up in my mom's house telling HER what to do. And then will get mad when my mom or ANYONE for that matter, disagree's with her. She thinks she is the ONLY enlightened person in our family...and for what reason? I DUNNO! She is quick to dismiss someone who she feels is not on her level (ie: people who she grew up with and knew her when she had nappy hair and pre-braces). I could go on about this woman but

My cousin...wants to be in EVERYBODY'S business. I honestly believe she went to college to find a husband, get married, have a child, and have him buy her a 4-runner. and she expected me to do the same!!! She looks down on me because I'm independent and enjoying my life but is quick to roll out with me when I go out and says she'll never tell her hubby but she wishes she would have waited to get married :eek: ! She spoiled and quick to throw status in anyone's face.

I thought with us being Soror's we'd be closer but they've been like this for as long as I can remember. When it comes to family gatherings I either sit in the corner and read or chill with my Grandfather...cause he's actually kicked both of them out of his house

excellent topic
 

I must say, I do not like my older brother's ways too much. I love him and he is cool but he is that type of man your momma told you to stay far far away from. He went to college, joined a BGLO, then promptly got booted out of college for not keeping his grades up (sad because he was on a full ride athletic scholarship). He only works occasionally and when he does work its usually some ridiculous job like Ginsu knife salesman. He has two babies by the same woman but refuses to marry her even though he lives with her. :confused: He is constantly wanting to borrow money for some ridiculous scheme....and always asking craziness, like "sis cosign for my Escalade." Mind you the man has NO job and is asking ME to cosign for an Escalade. Umm, can I get an new car before I go cosigning for his? *sigh* I would die 3 times for my brother in less than a heartbeat but dang, if he wasn't my brother...

I can say that it would have to be my cousin. She is one year older than me(she's 22 going on 52). She's overly critical about everything.She is really a pain in the neck and she complains about everything.

My maternal grandmother. A sorry case. My mom told me told me that I need to pray to God to change my feelings about her. I think not.

I don't like her!
 

I actually have two aunts that I ...Well 3 aunts that I really don't care for.

One is very uppty. She is around 42. She is the type that has book sense but no COMMON SENSE!

Two is one that I don't see much. She is in Cali and we are in TX. GOOD!

The last...nothin but a 60 year old liar. I just don't do stupid well.:rolleyes:

I love them dearly, but I really don't like them...