My boyfriend joined a frat and has become so mean; help!!!

[Kevin]

I just reread the OP. I'm concerned that some of your behavior, i.e., being exposed to abusive behavior and wanting to come back for more could lead to some very negative relationships in the future. I'm an attorney who often represents folks in domestic violence situations, so I'm somewhat familiar with the characteristics of women who might someday be victims of domestic violence and involved in a cycle of abuse. It may sound like I'm making mountains out of molehills, and maybe I'm off the mark, but consider this.

In addition to what the other posters are saying re: cutting the cord, I would also recommend some counseling for victims of domestic violence. The YWCA (probably in your area) should offer something like a 16-week course on this subject, or you might have something available through your university. You need to be able to recognize the warning signs of abuse and not fall into the cycle many folks find themselves in.

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by Kevin

I just reread the OP. I'm concerned that some of your behavior, i.e., being exposed to abusive behavior and wanting to come back for more could lead to some very negative relationships in the future.

To be fair, I think every girl has experienced this at some point. Being young and in love is hard, and many times, we don't realize that the great, warm, fuzzy feelings that we once got with our boyfriend could potentially be shared with someone else. We want to think that he can change.. and that it's just a phase.. and that we can fix him. Eventually you move on and come to understand that there are better guys out there and that it's worth it to start over with someone else.

Of course, some women don't come to those same conclusions, however, I wouldn't peg the OP as being one of them based simply on what she's posted... as a young woman who desperately wants things to work out with this guy when most likely they won't.

Again, I'm sure we've all been there, done that.